RED,thats all I saw. I lost my temper. now what?
Dh and I told SD14 to do her chore. Clean the bathroom. Its supposed to be done Once a weekend. Not scrub the toilet not scrub the bathtub. Just wipe down counters and sweep. and make sure toys are out of the bottom of the tub. thats it. A Couple of mins. No big deal. Except it was a big deal. Like always she had additude. I hear her throwing stuff around. I go in there and say if you need to take a 5 min break to cool off then do it. but either way loose the additude. and i walked off. heard something else. I SAID what was that. She said the toothbrush it fell i can't find it. I said if you just lost that attitude things wouldn't go flying everywhere. thats when it happend. she mouthed off and said "if you would just leave me alone i wouldn't have an additude." she trys to walk off i grab her arm and she starts hitting my arm shouting stop it daddy make her stop it." i push her into a wall and tell her get out of my house. im done nobody shouts at me. IM YELLING AT THIS POINT. ALL I SEE WAS RED. I NEED TO REMOVE MYSELF FROM THE SITUATION I HAD LOST IT I KNEW IT. and then come flying at me my DH saying "calm the f* down. calm the f* down." sreaming in my face. I push him off me and yelled at him you and her get the f* OUT OF MY HOUSE. my 5 year old is standing there crying, my husband is screaming in my face for me to get the f* out. hes holding my 2 year old. i pick up my five year old walk in his room say pick out a book bub it will be okay. i sat down started reading it. here it comes round two. a bunch of lies rolling out of sd14 mouth as dads asking her what happened. the screaming and bawling of her send me irate again. i walk in there i told her to shut her damn mouth and replayed the whole thing for my husband. he says she never shouted at you. Yes she did and if you don't believe me or want to do anything about it you and her get out of my house. he starts screaming at me again. i walked away the 5 year old crying again. dh wouldn't leave me alone this time. i sat there and asked dh to walk away very calmly and pointed down to my son in my lap. he said what u want me to lie to the kid. i said dh come on walk away hes upset. 5 more times. i get up get my phone and said im calling your mother. to come get u and the sd14. u r not going to do this. fine do it. i did . i walked outside thinking that would calm things down i get in my car. and said i need five mins away from u before i say something i regret. he wouldn't leave me alone. i did this several time i went back inside he would not let me have a few mins. his mom came things calmed down SD14 was never punished for putting her hands on me. the mother leaves. I was talking to dh saying there were a lot of x the sd14 tried to get us into fights and i did not give into it not once. then here she comes stomping through the house. yelling i was not i was not i don't try to start fights i don't even have a problem with her. i just got my keys and left. went to visit my grandmother. came back 3 hours later. kids were in bed. i gave the boys kisses. and talked to hubby. he informed me he would get full custoy of the kids. and i said right dh. right. becuase number one you are a Felon, number 2 you have a mental daughter who has been in and out of 4 phsy wards for suicide who takes everybit of your time. You are hilarous. if you don't want a divorce tell me how we are going to do this. what are we going to do with her, becuase i cannot and will not contiue to live like this. he started saying how depressed he was about all of this and how he missed his dad he lost 7 months ago. i said i get it but i need u now. i need you to be a husband and a father. i need you to get off your ass and get a job. be a parent pay attention to the boys and see how this affects them and stick up for me.
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^^^^^^^^^^awesome analagy.
^^^^^^^^^^awesome analagy. Couldn't be better.
SD 14 knows EXACTLY what she
SD 14 knows EXACTLY what she was doing. EXACTLY.
And it sounds to me like she hit you first.
^^ Ditto ^^ Protect your
I agree with the other
I agree with the other poster. If he isn't working and he is yelling at you in front of your boys, it is time for him to go. His daughter is already manipulating her father. And, it sounds like she picked up the habit from your DH. Instead of owning his behavior, he gave you a guilt trip. Plus, if she is telling lies to your DH, how much longer until she tells someone else that you are putting your hands on her? If she gets you reported to child protective services, it is going to a huge headache.
It is bad enough that your DH was yelling in your face. But it is absolutely unacceptable that he wouldn't stop trying to argue with you, even after your 5 year old got upset.
This is going to get worse
This is going to get worse and next time you could land in jail because of this kid. Kick their asses out. Not worth risking your own life and your kids.
Yeah, doesn't look good.
Yeah, doesn't look good. Blood is thicker than water and from the jump he blamed you first it seems even before the little bitch lied about what had happened - then going to keep harassing you, not letting you cool down and have your space? You're more cool than I because I would have slapped her to sleep, and his raggedy ass too.
When a S/O doesn't have your back when it comes to the unruly bratty monsters they made, to me, thats the beginning of the end. You should not have to live in your own house and be disrespected.
I have a thing of these fucking kids thinking they can be in your house and talk to you anyway and think its okay. It burns my ass like a hot pepper up in my stink hole.
Is it hard for him to find a job because he is a felon, or is he just lazy. Either way, he needs to shape up or ship both of their asses out.
LOLOL
LOLOL
Backup. Her chore is to half
Backup. Her chore is to half ass clean the bathroom. When she is finally forced to do it....she wants to be bitch. It is hard not to lose your cool with lazy people who treat you like a doormat.
Where is her mother? How long has DH been a reformed Felon? How much time has he had to find a job and getting back to work. The Felon issues...I have to ask, did this go down when you all were married?
A) SD needs to get her head out of her ass. Your house...your rules. Chores are A, B and C. They are to be done on XYZ days. Reinforce...like my dad away said. DO NOT MAKE ME TELL YOU TWICE.
C) DH over time can work on getting a better job.
D) If A,B and C are done, do you still feel up to the challenge.
GOOD LUCK.
If you don't leave for you
If you don't leave for you then leave for your kids' sakes. They don't need to witness that and you certainly don't want them to turn into her. They will pick up their habits. Leave for them.
My EX husband was a Felon
My EX husband was a Felon too. He could only get jobs at gas stations and restaurants but it was better than nothing
^^damn skippay^^^
^^damn skippay^^^
To answer everyones question
To answer everyones question about the felony. it was his x-wifes deal she stashed pot in his car 13 years ago it was enough for a felony, he does have problems finding a job so he went to work for his dad. painting. his dad died. he finished up the jobs and hasn't tried to get one since. until maybe now (we will see) i told him i needed more from him. and that her continuing to live with us is not really possible. he said fine ill take her to her mom. who has court ordered no contact. lowlife from hell! just like her daughter! i said right. im not trying to make it worse on her. subjeting her to that kind of drug use.i told him a break maybe. i told him to get something going and now not later becuase i just can't do it nor do i want to do it. im not sure where i stand...i love him... but i am so tired. 6 years of this stuff... and i have already gotten in trouble by dhs 1 year ago when she was screaming in my face and raised her fist at me. i slapped her. since then she has been in kicked out/released... of the following places.
her grandmothers,a mental hospital for suicide (becuase things weren't going her way),her aunts (where they were rich as can be; everything she wanted was given to her) a girls treatment home.now back home and doing the same song and dance.
After that fat fuck kid told
After that fat fuck kid told me "Fuck You" and to his daddy because he was pissed that he had to actually go in the kitchen to work instead of his fat ass eating, I was going to bust his ass wide open, thats when I decided I will NOT do ANYTHING for this kid - this includes talking to his retarded buffoon ass. I can't stand lazy, entitled kids and I am resenting DH for creating these monsters and letting the shitheads be the way they are.
Yeah "I was right about the kids" he said to the marriage counselor, after the fact I was going to bust his fat pale flabby ass wide open
Jacktard!
Jstorie, I can tell you love
Jstorie, I can tell you love him hence this being more stressful than the blowout. How does one love the DH or DW, but there is a skid(s) that is putting more strain on your relationship. What can you do. Maybe the little psycho could do some regular counseling for a while. I get your hubby lost his dad and such months ago and him having a hard time (I assume he is) finding a job can make one depressed and angry, but that does not excuse his lack of putting foot in asses.
Has bitchtress been diagnosed with something since shes been in and out of coo-coo hospitals?
I mean...
I dont know babe, but I empathize with you.
Just vent all you want.
This stepshit is bullshit.
we are in counsling and have
we are in counsling and have been for about 7 years. all of us. family and individual. thats one reason im so tired.
7 years counseling and it's
7 years counseling and it's still as bad as this? Time to swallow the bitter pill and cut the ties that bind. You have two questions before you: Do you want to live like this? Do you NOT want to live like this?
Because 7 years of professionals trying to fix it has led only to teens grabbing you and shouting and your dh acting like a policeman who believes the kid.
He is NOT your policeman. Rip the bandaid off and leave.
Not saying it was ok, but
Not saying it was ok, but didn't she grab her because the kid had hands on her?
Ah. I got a bit dyslexic when
Ah. I got a bit dyslexic when I read it, I guess. I was thinking the kid grabbed first and op tried to pry her off. My mistake.
Sounds like only you want
Sounds like only you want things to change. So you will have to be the one to change them.
Seriously? You really wanna
Seriously? You really wanna put up with these two blood sucking emotional vampire leeches?? Why? Why? Why? Surely you want more happiness and peace in your life?
Kick them both out and do it now before something REALLY bad goes down. You need to protect your kids and lose those two useless asswipes!!
Honestly darlz.. it's much, much better to be single, raising your kids in a safe, calm atmosphere, then put up with two demanding, entitled, arrogant, toxic pieces of shit in your life for even one more minute.
Funny thing usually happens when you realise you're worth more than this and start standing up for yourself. Happiness eventually finds you and keeps you content. Your life won't change unless you make the changes and stick with it.
You're worth more than this - you know this - now kick them the hell out and focus on YOU!