DH gave the coat off his back - literally
So my SD23 got a full-time job and started today. We are all really happy for her and encouraging her. She seems to be trying a little more to help herself and GS5 and in that case I'm all for helping. But there's that nagging issue of priorities and entitlement that lingers behind her.
And DH can go overboard just a tad with the helping...
Two things have happened recently that have kinda gotten under my skin.
1) SD called and needed a ride at 8:30 am on Tuesday. She had to take a physical for her new job and her car had just left her stranded. I work 8-5 and Dh works the same. One of us would have had to take off work and drive all the way across town and wait for her for an hour, and drive her home and then back to work. That was not going to work for us. So I was pondering what to do and figuring with DH while he was on the phone with her and he JUST HANDED ME the phone! Put me on the spot! So anyway I hired a cab for the next day round trip and charged my CC. I told her where the cab would pick her up and finalized details with her and the cab. She called the next day and thanked DH - but not me. :?
2) She is working directly across the street from her house. It's literally 1/10th of a mile through a parking lot. SD told DH "That's a long walk I'm going to get cold." Come to find out she has no coat...
DH takes his coat off and gives it to her.
The next day on FB she is posting pics of various bottles of alcohol and mixers she had bought for a get-together at her house. GS5 was in the mix of it all.
Let's see here COAT or ALCOHOL....? Clothes for your kid or movie tickets.
Priorities people
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Has she tried Uber...My kid
Has she tried Uber...My kid has no car at college and is using it all the time.
I can see buying the kid a coat and helping them out, but not if they are posting that stuff for the world to see. Dad needs to say something.
Has she tried Uber...My kid
Has she tried Uber...My kid has no car at college and is using it all the time.
I can see buying the kid a coat and helping them out, but not if they are posting that stuff for the world to see. Dad needs to say something.
I don't even know what to
:jawdrop:
I don't even know what to say.
DH relayed a message
DH relayed a message something like "sd said thanks for the cab." Instead of her calling me directly or even a text would have been nice.
I told him to never put me on
I told him to never put me on the spot like that again. "Play dumb/flattery" I'm just a dumb man said: "I knew you would know what to do, you know I can't think on my feet like you. "
He gets a call the next day thanking him and I get a second hand message. It's like that with SD's at Christmas too. I do all the shopping. I go on their Pinterest pages and see what they are interested in and what books they want, clothes they like, etc. He does NONE of that, and he still gets the credit. He doesn't even know what Pinterest is...
Ugh. I went on pintrest to
Ugh. I went on pintrest to find out what DH's daughter is into since he was so LOST and floundering about what to do for her birthday.
He didn't thank me for the research. He thought I was showing him her pintrest page to mock her. That wasn't the reason. Well, err...I mean, I DID secretly mock her but my intentions were sincere, I was trying to help him get to know her. I find it sad that I, the disengaged one, know more about her "want" lists than he does.
Oh yeah, and my pintrest page is completely snarky and passive aggressive. I guess that's why he didn't trust me. }:)
No shopping this year...They
No shopping this year...They are getting cash in a card. I will not shop for people who barely acknowledge me and when they do it's usually shitty.
^^Yup
^^Yup
The next day on FB she is
The next day on FB she is posting pics of various bottles of alcohol and mixers she had bought for a get-together at her house. GS5 was in the mix of it all. Let's see here COAT or ALCOHOL....? Clothes for your kid or movie tickets.
GAH! This crap just breaks my heart.
Yea Daizy she hasn't gotten
Yea Daizy she hasn't gotten to the point of maturity where her child comes before partying and going out with friends. We have GS5 over A LOT. As much as possible and he cries when we take him home. It breaks my heart.
He has a drawer full of clothes and a coat at my house and his own little bed. Of course, grandparents tend to be a little more fun than parents.
I hate hearing this kind of
I hate hearing this kind of thing. There are so many people who have kids but can't afford them. I hate it when parents put their own needs/wants above those of their children.