I do all the thanksgiving prep Wednesday. While H is at work. And I had my 3 kids and my nephew. Just me and kids. All finished. The plan is H is going to take our son to a movie and I'm going to get a pedicure with my daughter. I premake our sons dinner and cover it and put it in the microwave. I thought I might run late with the pedicures as it is in a mall, and the day before thanksgiving. The plan was to get Chinese take out for the rest of us. But I told my H that it would be too late for our son, who is 2. That he would have dinner and the rest of us would eat as soon as we could. All this I told him before he left for the movie.

Then after the movie, he calls and says he's going to drop our son off and go get HIMSELF a slice of pizza. And I'm just thinking I did all this prep work for thanksgiving. It took 4 hours of non stop cooking. I even asked him if he would get take out a few days prior and it was agreed we were getting Chinese take out. And agreed the day of again. So I reminded him of all this. I was at the mall, I was waiting in line to get my daughter a pretzels. We were next In line. The mall is 3 minutes from house. We would have been home in 5-10 minutes. My H takes it upon himself to take our son to pick up the food. After I was wondering where he was and I told him to bring him home cause it was gonna be a 20 minute wait for the food. Well it was a 35 minute wait. As I predicted. They were busy cause it was the night before thanksgiving and nobody is cooking . He says he took son with him cause I wasn't home.

At this point he came back with the food, our son is way late with his dinner and bedtime routine. He is screaming at me outside in 25 degree weather that this is all my fault cause I shouldn't have stopped for a pretzel. I said his dinner was in the microwave. All you had to do was heat is for 45 seconds and give it to him. He says I wasn't gonna do that cause he won't eat for me( fair enough, he's 2 and sometimes he does this thing still where he will only eat if mommy is with him). So I said ok I was 5 minutes from home, so were you. We would have been home at same time. Or worse case scenario I would have got home 5 minutes after you. Time you could have used taking off shoes and jacket and washing his hands. And I,would have gave him dinner and you could have picked up the take out. Then he says he wasn't about to do all that. On top of that he already took him to the movies. And that this was all my fault, and I should have been home and I should never have stopped for a pretzel. At this point he's shouting over me. So I'm not going to be shouted at and not listened to. So I take our son in the house, wash his hands and sit him down to dinner. So H comes in and tells me he threw the food in the garbage and walks out of house. I lock all doors, chains and all. my son is eating dinner, and I tell my older 2 that he put our food in the garbage. The outside garbage. They say what's gonna happen. Can we get the food, can we still get dinner. Then H is pounding at the back door demanding to be let in. I tell him to leave. Then he says food is at the back door, and he left.

Thats why he's again on consequence. He was off sex for a month. Got sex one time. Then he does this. He's going to do another month. His month will end December 26. After I did all the prep work for thanksging by myself. After I asked him a week in advance if he would watch our son so my daughter and I could go for pedicures, after I left our sons dinner ready to go in microwave. This asshole has the nerve to first say he's going to get HIMSELF a slice of pizza. Then he has the nerve to say I shouldn't have gotten my daughter a pretzel. And that was with her own money. Then he has the nerve to shout over me, not let me speak, threaten to throw our dinner In the garbage.