DH and I split up some time ago. We stayed that way for a few months. After I was able to look at him or hear his voice with out wanting to claw his eyes out we began talking to see if this could be saved and if we wanted to try to save it.
I did lay down some boundaries and I guess you could say ground rules for giving this another shot. He did as well and I thought we were heading down the right track. I saw improvments on both our sides, and it started feeling like things were going to be ok. Now I'm just not sure.
He did complete anger managment, but the short version which isn't what we agreed to, but I've seen a big change in him even so. I began therapy, and I'm still going. He has not seeked out private therapy, and we haven't even began looking for a couples therapist. All part of our agreement.
Things have gotten alot better, but every day that he tells me some other excuse of why he didn't look for a private therapist I'm starting to feel...what, resentful? I'm not sure.
I've looked for couples and he says he'd like to start private first and move to that in a few months. But there's been no follow threw.
We've stopped talking about our problems, but they are still there. For me, they're festering, and resentment grows. For him, I don't know. I guess I'm asking the men here, do some men really think that way? That if they just ignore it long enough it will go away?
I know therapy can be a pain in the ass at times. I don't like being told I was wrong about something, but my dr. hasn't held back and I'm looking at things differently and trying to make better choices because I see now, all the things he said I was being unreasonable about, I'm working on it. Why is it to much to ask for that he does the same?