Senior Pictures
SS17 is having his senior pictures taken in the next couple of weeks.
Background: BM set it up, last minute of course, at a local park. The photographer is an exBF of BM's. At BM's request, DH and I took SS17 and purchased a suit, dress shoes etc. for him (BM paid half).
DH wants to be there when the pictures are taken, which is fine with me. DH also wants me to be there, which is not fine with me. I don't see how my being there will make a difference one way or the other. It's not like BM cares what I think anyway.
I think it will be awkward enough for SS17, being in a public park, all dressed up, with BM's exBF photographer plus BM and DH. Then throw in SM and BM's SO (DH says he will be there too). I just think it's too much pressure for SS17.
Anyway DH went off on me last night about this. DH thinks I'm being weird. What I believe is that DH is upset with BM for setting all this up without his input. I think it's easier him to go off on me than on BM.
What do you think?
~BettyRay
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My dad was there when my
My dad was there when my senior pictures were taken but then my dad was a perfectionist. I had 3 outfit changes. It's a nice memory, I'd like that for SS17, not an entourage of parents surrounding him in a park.
~BettyRay
We took our own pictures for
We took our own pictures for SS's Senior Pictures... just my friend, phone, & our little Kodak cameras. A couple hours, couple locations, & ended with a couple hundred pictures that were good. CostCo or Walmart print pretty cheap.
Don't photographers come to
Don't photographers come to the school and take 12th grade pictures, just like they do for every grade from 1-11?
I don't get what "senior"pictures are and why the school photo isn't good enough.
Its almost like a photo
Its almost like a photo shoot. Different poses, outfits, locations, backgrounds, etc.
Also the pics can showcase what your child has done in school- football player takes a pic with a football, trumpet player takes a pic with the trumpet, etc
I think the purpose is to get the last pictures of your kid as still a "kid" before they move on to adulthood.
Oh barf. 30 min of SK love.
Oh barf. 30 min of SK love.
No offense taken LOL I didnt
No offense taken
LOL I didnt create the idea.....
When I had my senior pictures taken, I bought (myself) the cheapest package. It wasn't that big of an affair. I probably paid $60???? The pics were mostly to exchange with friends and we would write some message on the back of the picture. It was a keepsake. Way before FB and IG, etc.
My niece when she had her senior pics my sister paid around $800. Part of her package was getting her hair and makeup done. The pics turned out really nice. My sister had the money to spend. She figured they were probably the last professional pics (solo) she would have of my niece.
This is a she-she suburban
This is a she-she suburban HS. They don't do 12th grade yearbook pictures, just ID pictures. All 12th graders are required to submit a senior picture.
~BettyRay
Also, what's worked for me
Also, what's worked for me about these things is saying, "DH you know I really don't want to go. BM has something nasty to say about me every time I meet her and you know it will be very uncomfortable for me. That being said, if it is very important to you that I be there, I will, as long as you understand it will be very difficult for me."
My Dh usually backs down at this point, but if he doesn't, he usually understand I am doing him a solid favor, and he will pay me back. Maybe something similar will work for you? Just a thought.
I said something similar to
I said something similar to this last night. DH has been silent ever since.
~BettyRay
I'm wondering why everybody
I'm wondering why everybody needs to be present for pictures to be taken. It's not graduation.
If you really think he's going off on you because he's mad at BM, I would make sure he knows that going off on me is NOT the better choice.
I told DH last night that I
I told DH last night that I know its easier for him to go off on me than to confront BM, and it's hurtful.
~BettyRay
Do not go, not your place.
Do not go, not your place. Honestly, the kid can do it alone, but I understand a mom wanting to be involved. Not the dad. I did not do formal senior pics for my son. He refused it. So we happened to be on a cruise and I always make them take every professional shot on the boat I can and this is my pictures for the house every year. We got a great pic of BS19 and I used that for his announcement and his grad party invites. You just can not use them in the yearbook. Those have to be the ones at school.
I think DH wants to be there
I think DH wants to be there because they are splitting the cost - although he hasn't verbalized that to me.
I had suggested that we take SS17's suit along when we have our family picture taken in December. We could do our own but that idea seems to have fizzled.
~BettyRay
I think your Dh is being
I think your Dh is being silly. If he wants to go, he should go. It's not that big of a deal that you need to go also. When I had my senior pics only my mom was there and that was because she drove me. During the "shoot" she waited in the waiting area and read a magazine. Tell your Dh to chill out, he's making something out of nothing.
OMG I have had 3 kids
OMG I have had 3 kids graduate from high school and they did their portraits. I paid for them however I found no need to be there when the pics were taken. All of the pics came out amazing. I wouldn't go.
Why do all of his parents
Why do all of his parents needs to be there anyway? He's old enough to handle this on his own.
Wait...look from another
Wait...look from another angle.
Your DH knows BM will be there. He doesn't want to be alone with her and give her a chance to start shit, maybe? Hell, if DH DIDN'T invite me and BM was going to be there I'd be livid.