Why would you do this to your kid

BM picked up SD today from our house. SO and I had an amazing day with SD that had all of us super happy. When BM arrived, everything went to shit.

BM wants to put SD6 into karate. The classes have to be done twice a week. She wanted to put SD in Tuesday and Thursday night. We have SD on Thursday night, and she already takes gymnastics. The two classes start at the same time.

SD is standing next to BM when BM tells SO that she already signed SD up for karate, and that we need to bring her to her class every Thursday. SO told BM that SD already has a class scheduled for that time, and that we would not bring SD to this class. We have SD every Wednesday and Thursday night. She then proceeded to tell SO that we would need to pull SD out of her gymnastics class, bring her to the karate class, and pay for half of the class, simply because supposedly SD wants to take karate. SO said no.

She then demanded that SD tell her father that she wanted to take this class, saying things like "Tell your father you want to take this class. He won't say yes unless you tell him because he does not like me." SD finally whispered that she wanted to take karate instead of gymnastics. SO told her no, she has a prior commitment that she needs to see through. SD has been in gymnastics all of 3 months. We have already paid large registration fees to get her in. BM stomped off telling SD that Daddy said no, so she would not be able to do karate.

She then sent SD back to our door to beg her father. The whole time, BM is yelling at SO that he is selfish, that he always does this to SD. It really ruined the whole day for everyone.

BM has a habit of telling SD that things are going to happen before she has even discussed it with SO. Then SO looks like the bad guy when he tells SD that what BM has told her is not going to happen, like how we are all going to move to Florida.

SO offered to take SD to the class every other Saturday, since they have the same class on a Saturday as well. SO recently sent her an email telling her she could put SD in any activity she wanted, as long as it didn't affect his time with SD, and as long as she didn't expect him to pay. She decided to ignore both of those requests.

I just don't understand how a mother could do that to her own child.

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Here is a word I never

Here is a word I never use...but that BM has earned it.

She is a cunt of the worst kind. All she is after is control and power. She does not care what her child wants. She just wants power. And when a mom is like that...well....she is a cunt.

Lol....yes and yes!

We did look it up and they

We did look it up and they suggest twice a week, but they also have a Saturday class. SO would be willing to drop SD off at the place for an hour in order for SD to take the karate class on his two Saturdays that he has a month, but he will not pay a dime for the class. The problem is that she wants what she wants and is not getting it. She unfortunately does not understand how to compromise. We have been fighting over petty crap like this constantly over the last 6 years.

You enrolled the child in

You enrolled the child in gymnastics class and tried to demand the BM not attend. Now BM enrolled the child in a class during dad's time and is demanding dad pay half and give up some of his time.If dad refuses to allow the kid to attend karate during his time, SD will blame him for not allowing her to do something she's looking forward to.
If BM attends the gymnastics classes, you willstop paying for them. SD will blame mom for not being able to continue taking a class she enjoys.

Sorry, but both you and BM need to step back and stop the foolishness. Both of you are using the kid to get at the other parent.

SO and I don't want BM to

SO and I don't want BM to attend because of issues like this. She can never attend something and just watch her daughter. She has to always bring something similar to this situation in front of SD and stress everyone out. She is not a woman any of us are able to happily be around. I will no sit at any class she attends for my own health and sanity. I will not go to the hospital due to anxiety again based on BM's bitching. Why can't she put SD in a class for herself? Nothing is stopping her as long as she pays for the class, she does receive child support, and she should not expect SO to give up any time for the class she wants to do.