So embarrassed I'm seconds away from breaking down.
I've been divorced for a few months I haven't had relations in a while. I know maybe it was a dumb thing to do but I had relations with an old friend just once. My mom came to drop off DS as my friend was leaving. She saw him got all mad and started calling me a slut, a whore and an embarrassment right in front my son. She wouldn't even let me grab my son she was trying to block me from him.
After the way she has treated me through my divorce blaming my ex husband's cheating on me we have slowly been trying to rebuild our relationship. I should have just took all of the advise from this board the last time and cut her out of my life. But she called me in tears apologizing and she is my mother so I gave her a second chance. Now I am done with her. I saw that she posted online about how a classy woman is suppose to keep her legs closed and respect herself. Then she text me this little gem.
" Don't you have any self respect anymore? I raised you better. That guy doesn't want you. You just look trashy and desperate. Just stop it now! Your better than that. Your not some cheap whore so stop acting like one. Look at your brother about to get married and become a father. You had it all I was so proud of you Newbie. Just look at yourself. Your coming on 30. You need help. Don't contact me until you get it."
I'm trying to fight back tears she's not worth it. I have a wonderful father and stepmother I don't need her anymore. She's a toxic human being.
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Like she knows anything about
Like she knows anything about how a classy woman should act.
I'm so sorry that your mother is who she is.
^^^ ::applause::
^^^ ::applause::
my dad did the same thing-
my dad did the same thing- now going on 8 years ago. i look forward to hitting the 25 year mark
they actually told me "we love you but we will stand by our faithful (to their religion) son-in-law." i said "that's your choice. now i'm making mine. goodbye."
OP, ur mom is like gangrene. time to amputate.
LOL ^^ THIS ^^ In all
LOL
THIS 
In all honesty, I don't believe in keeping toxic people in my life because they're "family". If you can't behave like a caring, decent human being then I don't need you. Protect yourself and your son from that lunatic. I'm really sorry that happened to you... must have been humiliating.
Newbie I have followed your
Newbie I have followed your posts from prior to your relationship breakup, divorce onwards and given arseholes husbands treatment during your marriage and after I think there is nothing wrong with finding enjoyment in your life, including having a little fun. YOU did so out of the presence of your young child and more importantly while FREE AND SINGLE. Same could not be said about your exdh, who your mother thinks so highly of. Double standards at its finest. Your "mother" should be ashamed of herself and she does not deserve you. Your mother and ex are cut from the same evil cloth. Dont beat yourself up about your bedroom fun with this old friend, you are not your ex, you are not loose because you decided to do something for you for a change. Remember the best way to heal is to cut those toxic strings and do what is right for YOU.
ITS OVER - I am so sorry to hear your mother treated you so hurtfully and disloyal. It sounds like you have a close family with your children and its really your bm who is losing out on that joy.
Sweet pea - must be emotionally draining dealing with such a bm and the fallout and hurt she can cause with her words and actions. She sounds incredibly manipulative and controlling to resort to such extremities to restablish her hold over everyone. I hope she is found and your bd finds some peace.
Echo no lol. We weren't naked
Echo no lol. We weren't naked or anything he kissed me on the cheek grabbed his jacket and said good night to my mom. She gave hi a dirty look and said " It smells like sex in here". She asked me if we did anything. I told him to leave. I ignored her and she went crazy. I apologized to him later for her behavior he said it was not a problem.
Your right she has shown me over and over. I'm done she doesn't need to show me anymore she's cut.
Did you have that high pro
Did you have that high pro glow? Lol. Maybe she's really jealous. You were being discrete. The kid wasn't home. And you needed someone. Tell mom to put a sock in it.
Please don't let your mother
Please don't let your mother shame you or make you feel guilty.
My mother did both, very well. She was very sick most of her life, and used it frequently as a manipulation tactic.
You do NOT have to put up with that toxicity in your life just because she is your mother (although many people will tell you differently). It got so bad that my mother and I were estranged the last 8 months of her life and she refused to communicate with me. We got to say final goodbyes on her deathbed last month. I am grieving for the loss of my mother for the past 20 years, not just her recent departure.
Sorry, not to hijack your post, but it's a very raw topic for me and I have been unable to talk about it much since it happened. Since your mother does not appear to understand boundaries, it's up to you to put them up and hold them strong.
Good luck
I would text her this: "
I would text her this:
" *you're "
Then cut her out of your life.
lol!!
lol!!
}:)
He's only one and a half. He
He's only one and a half. He doesn't understand most everything but he does repeat Thank you sue you put it in perspective. Growing up she made sex seem like a dirty thing unless your married so I guess its just drilled into my brain. My brother got his soon to be wife pregnant after he proposed so she feels like their getting married anyways he's doing the right thing. But if I have relations with someone I'm not committed to then I'm the great whore. Mind you my brother has been around the block but she acts like she is blind to that. He is still the start child because he lives to please her.
Sorry about your mom. That
Sorry about your mom. That stinks.
I also think it's weird that so many of us in stephell had toxic mothers. Hmmm.
Huh - that's true, isn't it?
Huh - that's true, isn't it?
As others have said you are
As others have said you are single, your young child was not home. There is a massive difference between what you did and having nightly encounters.
For f*ck sake its your life and you need to be living it how you see fit.
Your son is young, fortunately nothing she has said to or infront of him will be sticking at his age so you have the perfect timing to cut that witch out of your life.
We have cut off my partners mother, my SD is 3 stb4 and she adores her, however shes now not seen her since the beginning of the year and does she care? I cant remember the last time she mentioned her.
Yes this woman is your mother but YOU are also a mother and you have the right to protect yourself and your son from this vile creature.
Just because someone is
Just because someone is related to you doesn't mean they can't be toxic.
My DH was recently told by his therapist that his entire FAMILY is toxic and he should never contact them again. He has changed his phone number but is still hurt by the way he's been treated and back-stabbed by his family. As well as grieving their loss.
Please don't second-guess yourself again and let this hag back into your life. Your son doesn't need that toxicity around him either. He's innocent.
Honestly, from stuff you've
Honestly, from stuff you've written in the past I think that (again) this actually has nothing to do with you. This is 100% your mom's issue, and it comes from her past - NOT your present. It is not a reflection on you. So don't be embarrassed, it says everything about your mom, not you.
And good on you for getting some!
I read your other blog entry too, about Mr. Sexy Tattoo. I feel faint! And slightly jealous.... 