I got divorced 14 years ago. Initially my xh and I could not talk, email or even write a letter to each other without whatever the subject matter was dissolving into a mud slinging contest of how-you-done-me-wrong-you-asshole/bitch. And yes, I was just as much to blame as he was.

Once our kids got a little older, and he and I both caught onto their COD games of manipulation and deflection- life calmed down a lot. And our ability to communicate effectively for the sake of our children became far more effective.

I am by no means "friends" with my kids step mother, we have no reason to be friends but we have a cordial enough relationship these days. I thought she comprehended over the last 14 years that I am not a money grubbing, gold digging, stereotypical BM. Apparently I was wrong.

About a YEAR ago my xh realized that the state of FL pulled way too much money out of his checks for child support. To give you an idea of how much too much: I signed off on cs (stated he owed me nothing) in 2003. Apparently they continued pulling money out of his check until my son turned 18 (2010).

You read that right for seven years my dumb ass ex husband never checked his check stubs to ensure the garnishment was cancelled. $400 a month x 12 x 7= $33,600.00. Yes, my xh is known for his stupidity and lack of attention to detail... can you tell? But I digress.

These CS payments did not go to ME, because I turned in the court paperwork stating he owed nothing. He did not give to his HR department the signed paperwork to stop the payments, so payroll kept sending the payments to DOR State of Florida, who apparently was sticking the money into an account, that was in my name but not paying it to me, clear as mud?

XH and the state work on getting his money back. Supposedly they are sending him a check for the past 90 days of the money he overpaid. I found out about all of this, today, when I opened my mail and found a check, made out to me by the State of Florida for $35,420.00!!!

WHOO HOOOO Baby!!! Party Time!!
Um wait, this says for child support... for my kids... the adults.
So 2 hours and four phone calls later, I am finally on the phone with my XH, who is pissed the state sent the check to me.

I can hear step mom in the back ground "Tell her to send it back, they have to reissue it to you, TELL HER NOT TO CASH IT!! (Insert XH name here) TELL HER OR SHE WILL KEEP IT!!"

Me: (Insert xh name here) I'll meet you at the bank in an hour if you want... I'll sign the check over to you and its all yours dude.. it's your money.

Just left the bank.
XH and step mom show up. XH is fine, friendly greeting even held the door open for me.
Step mom's facial expression was like someone spiked her ice tea with piss.

I signed the check, cashed it, and had a cashiers check issued to XH for the exact amount (thus having proof I gave the $$ to him). Which he promptly deposited into his account and since it is a cashiers check from his own bank, it went in as cash. No delay money is available immediately.

XH tells me thank you.
I say your welcome.
And I head for my car aiming to head home and enjoy a nice long relaxing bubble bath.
And I hear behind me from SM

"She hasn't changed a bit, she's still such a bitch."

Dear god, life is too short.
Way too short to get pissed off over comments from an idiot.
I know this.
But I still want to drive my car straight through the big ole gap between her front teeth.