I've been away for a bit, lurking mostly because things have been good and I'm being happy and making the best of it.

But today I just need to VENT.

The house that DH and exW lived in was foreclosed.
ExW went after the assistance settlement being offered by the State. She told DH she was going after it, but he never heard anything about it after that.

Well, she received the settlement check, significant amount of $$.
BUT it came ONLY in his name since he was the Primary on the loan.
She signed the check (his name) and tried to cash it, but the bank refused since she did not have his ID. (Kudos to the bank! Had they accepted it, he would NEVER have known anything!!!!)

So she called him to go to the bank with her, and, yeah, by the way, so generously give him half of the money. Now we are strapped for cash at the moment, so he was soooo glad for the money to help us out that he went without hesitating.

I'm at least thankful that he got her to sign a notarized document agreeing to liability for taxes on her half IF any has to be paid, because I nagged him about it AND wrote it out.

The 1099 too is solely in his name. I called about finding out if they can re-send separate 1099s with the correct amounts to each of them but they say there is nothing they can do, to talk to a tax adviser.

Turns out too, that she had to have forged his signature on the Claim Form too, because both signatures were required to claim the settlement and DH is the Primary!

I'm happy we got the money and that we have a document signed by her showing that she got part of the $.

But I am pissed, because DH tried to change his initial story (about her trying to cash the check without him knowing) when I said she should send her an email to inform her about the 1099 situation and remind her that by signing his signature she was committing FRAUD. He changed the story to "I'm not sure she tried to cash it without me knowing." Why?? To protect HER??? WHY???

And I am really angry and sad that he is MAD at ME, for pointing out that his exW is criminally using his name and signature, and that, in fact, he let her get away with it because he allowed her to deposit a check that has the signature she forged, rather than re-signing the check. Why??? What was he thinking???

Oh, now I see why he's mad at me... sigh, for pointing out his mistake, and the fact that he WASN'T in fact thinking.

Apparently I have it out for the ExW because I don't want her getting away with forging his signature. Apparently I should just be happy because even if we do have to pay her share of the taxes on it, it's still a good amount of money that will help us out A LOT right now.

I'm pissed AGAIN. Did he just give in to possibly paying her share of the taxes even though we have a document from her agreeing that she would pay her share??!!!) Why??? What is he thinking????