It has been several months since I have posted. Largely because nothing major is happening-for those that recall my story. My ss15 went to detention from Sept-Nov. He was expelled from our local school. Dh has had no contact with him. We only found out that he was out due to my fake profile on facebook and ability to access his account. Didn't even know for sure where he was living or what was going on.

Anywho, the issue is the continued attempts at contact-largely from my fil. He will call my dh every couple of weeks or so-to just leave some bullshit message. Typically they alternate from insulting him in some manner to trying to appear nice and kindly. The last message was something about wanting to have a man to man talk about fil's past transgressions. Not his past transgressions toward my dh, and not that he called them transgressions, but rather wanting to explain to dh that when he molested his sister-it wasn't really his fault sort of explanation. This was all before dh was born so he couldn't even care less.

My dh always ignores ALL these calls. The last call we had was last Friday while we were on Vacation. It was simply a hang up no message so not much to ignore.

However, this morning-my ss15 friends my son and daughter on facebook. His stepsiblings. Whom he has had no significant contact with in a year and a half. He did not try and friend my dh nor his actual half sibling, my other dd. My ds did not even see the request before I deleted it into cyberspace, but my dd16 did see it and did accept it. He sent her a message letting her know, "Mamaw M is having knee replacement surgery today, please pray for her". WTF? First of all this "Mamaw" has refused to even acknowledge my children in public for several years now-even prior to the falling out with dh. This "mamaw" who is an er nurse, saw my dd16 brought into the er in pain and scared from a dislocated shoulder (dh and I weren't with her-she was at gymnastics and her coach brought her in)and didn't even acknowledge her. She has informed others that she dislikes my children-has actually told my ss WHY she dislikes them-and I know that she said it because it was information he had that hewould not be privy to unless she specifically told him. Second of all, this kid hates Church. We are regular churchgoers and tried several years ago to get him involved-it was part of the reason he did not wish to come to our house (or the excuse he used)-he did not want to sit thru the boring 1 hour service because it was "stupid". So, IDK, to me-contacting your stepsister whom you had sexually predatory behavior toward in the past, no longer speak to, asking her to pray (when you are not Christian) for her stepmamaw who has not even acknowledged her existence for YEARS sorta seems ridiculous to me.

Am I wrong? My dd did not respond and my guess is that she wont. I am sure that is the "high road". But frankly I am sick and tired of these people-whether it be my fil or ss calling her or contacting anyone here just to stir things up. I wont say anything to my fil for calling dh-as these calls come on his cell phone and it is up to him to tell him to bug off. They do bother him intensely and he says they, in fact, ruin his entire day. He has blocked them on facebook, does not respond-youd think they'd stop. However, when my ss is contacting MY kids I do think it is my business and I want to tell him to bug off and how atrocious I think it is that he even contacted them to ask such a thing.

What do you think? I know it seems innocent enough, a simple prayer request, but in light of all that's happened and the state of relations it just seems like a slap in the face.