SD isn't even here yet and GUBM is causing issues already....(strong language inside)
So, SD texted FDH today and told him that she just got a new kitten. And that GUBM is telling her that she needs to ask him if she can take the kitten here with her for her visit. Because "if she's going to be away that long, she needs to learn about responsibility."
UHM.....
How about SD already has a cat here?? That FDH got her when she was five?? And that SD is now the sole caretaker of when she visits because she decided to be shitty towards me about how she felt I wasn't taking care of the cat properly - nevermind that if it weren't for me that cat wouldn't be fed half of the time.
How about this kitten does not need to be ripped out of literally the only home it has ever known and transported six and a half hours away for three weeks only to be ripped back out of a remotely comfortable environment and transported six and a half hours back???
How about we have a St. Bernard that is a giant asshole when he sees cute little animals and might hurt this poor little kitten without meaning to?
How about we have another cat who has FHV that might infect this poor little kitten because lord KNOWS he's going to stress out and his FHV will kick into high gear with the addition of another animal in the house. And that alone will cost us a couple hundred dollars in vet bills to bring him back to stability.
Or how about just flat out NO BECAUSE THIS ISN'T YOUR HOME, GUBM! STAY THE FUCK OUT OF MY HOUSE!
Are you fucking kidding me????
FDH thinks GUBM is doing this because she thinks SD might choose to stay here and she doesn't want to get saddled with a kitten.
Nope, wishful thinking, FDH. She's doing this for one, maybe two reasons.
One - She wants to be able to vilify FDH to SD. "Oh, FDH is so MEAN, SD, not letting you take your new kitten with you!"
Two - She wants to be able to say that SD can't come for the entire visit because she has a "responsibility" towards a kitten. And I know that as soon as FDH pulls out the "Well, SD already has a cat here that she's responsible towards" line, GUBM is going to scream at him and tell him that he had a responsibility towards her and SD and he shirked that by shacking up with me.
Mark my words, that's what she's going to pull. I guarantee it. And if she doesn't, well, then hell will have frozen over.
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Hahaha, I'm so cruel! God, I
Hahaha, I'm so cruel! God, I don't even know. Maybe I'll borrow a page out of GUBM's book and use alcohol and sedatives to calm my guilt-ridden nerves enough so that I can get a sound night's sleep
how about.. BM should have
how about.. BM should have thought about this BEFORE getting SD the kitten? Why couldn't they just wait until she got back? Not like it's difficult to find a kitten at any minute of any given day. :?
Seriously. And get this:
Seriously.
And get this: The kitten was the result of poor cat parenting by the people GUBM and SD live with. They have an unspayed cat, she got pregnant, and had kittens. So, it's not like the kitten wouldn't have just been hanging around the house waiting for SD anyway!
JEEEEEEEZ. Psycho asshat really needs to pull her head out of her backside, maybe she'd feel better if she let her brain get a little bit of oxygen.
I'm fantasizing about
I'm fantasizing about punching GUBM in what I think is her face. She absolutely orchestrated this to cause mayhem for us. She needs to just fall off the face of the earth already and get it over with.
Yea, I told FDH to be nice about it with SD, explain to her about the FHV kitty and that she already has a cat here that loves her that she is responsible for. And I told him to be blunt with GUBM but to refrain from name calling (he wanted to tell her she was insane and I said "Nope, nope, absolutely not, do not sink to her sick level").
Oh, she totally needs to
Oh, she totally needs to learn responsibility. I think that's part of why she wants SD to take the cat with her. GUBM has NEVER been responsible enough for pets, let alone children.
They abandoned SD's first cat because it had something to do with FDH, but, GUBM got SD another cat just before she first visited us in PGH. They recently "re-homed" that cat to a farm (uh. sure) because it was going to the bathroom all over the house...because neither one of them will step up and clean a litter box.
But, we have a surprise for SD this visit. Not only is she responsible for feeding her cat that already lives here, but, there is now a litter box for her cat in her bedroom that she will be responsible for cleaning.
Don't worry GUBM, SD will learn how to care for a cat, but not becuase you're sending one to our house!
yeah, I agree that since you
yeah, I agree that since you have an FHV positive cat in the home it would put the kitten at risk. Our BM went out and bought (bought NOT adopted) a black lab puppy this summer ( WE have black lab at our house) and thought it would be a great idea for the dog to come to our house when the kids are with us (we have 50/50 custody). Um no... We already have our lab and a cat. If you didn't want to deal with the dog you shouldn't have gotten the dog. Did I mention they live in an apartment and she says that it's not "fair" to the dog to be cooped up all day? Yeah, because we made the decision for her to get the dog...
UGH! What is with these
UGH! What is with these nutjobs? You get a pet for your kid it stays at YOUR HOUSE!
Maybe I'll buy SD a tarantula while she's here and send it home with her...
I'm just wondering if there's
I'm just wondering if there's anything creepier or nastier than a tarantula...
LMFAO!!! Unfortunately, SD
LMFAO!!! Unfortunately, SD will be coming to and from in a car, so, it will cause us (or FDH) despair until she is in the hands of GUBM.
GUBM and SD live with some
GUBM and SD live with some random people, which is where they got the kitten from, so it's not like there aren't people who know how to roughly take care of a cat around - sure they didn't spay their own cat hence the kittens, but I digress.
Yea, FDH and I are having someone come take care of our cats and dog while we go to NJ this weekend, they're not coming with us. That would be absurd because, get this, FDH's mom also has a cat and two dogs. And it's unreasonable to make pets travel like that. The only time I ever took any animal with me when I traveled was when I had my corgi. He would just pass out on the front seat and go with me on weekend car trips to visit my friends. But, if there were other animals at my destination, he would stay with a pet sitter, because I'm a responsible pet owner and a considerate house guest.
BM got SS13 a dog so he could
BM got SS13 a dog so he could learn responsibility.....ummm,right. BM decides that when the skids visit us that the dog comes with. Absolutely no consideration that we don't have dogs at our house, not because we do not like them, we do, we have an elderly cat who doesn't need her house upset with a dog.
DH allowed it for one weekend. SS13 wasn't learning responsibility, I was. The poor dog needed water, food and walking, SS13 had his head in video games all day long. The dog was well behaved considering he lives with BM and she encourages utter chaos everyday. At the end of the weekend, DH and I had a discussion with SS13 about his lack of responsibility for his dog and that although we really liked the dog, the dog is not invited back to our home. SS13 wasn't happy, he told us that BM would be angry because she'd have to take care of the dog when Skids were visiting us. Sorry, but if you aren't taking care of YOUR dog, he is not welcome at our home.
BM tries every few visits that the dog needs to come with, DH always says NO.
I just really don't get
I just really don't get it.
Maybe because I'm not insane like these BMs, but, really? Wtf is wrong with them getting pets for these kids and then trying to send them off with them for visits??
At this point, I don't give a
At this point, I don't give a damn if FDH tells SD that I don't want the kitten here, because I will tell her to her face that that kitten is not coming in my car let alone in this house, no way, no how. Period. End of discussion.
And the worst part about all of this, SD KNOWS GUBM is acting crazy with this because GUBM only just recently started calling it SD's kitten. This kitten has been around for 8 weeks and it has always just been another kitten, until now. Now, suddenly, it is SD's kitten and GUBM wants SD to learn responsibility with it. Because, you know, she can't learn that by going to school.