Hello, My name is Kiwiflowers6, I am 24 years old, German and Irish Decent. I am a stepmom to 3 young ones ages 6,4,and 3. I am also a Biological mother to 3 young ones ages 5,4,and 14months. I am also a step daughter or was anyway ( step-father passed away 6 years ago). I am brutally honest, sometimes not for my own good. I don't like to sugar-coat anything as I was raised not to and It's the same thing as lying in my book. I have been a step mom for 2 years and within in those 2 years a lot has happened. I try as hard as I can to be strong and realize this is an adjustment for everyone. But my patients has been wearing thin. My emotions have been all over the place. I am so glad I found this site. I can read and learn so much from others experiences. I love the feedback you all give whether you back me up, give advice good or bad and call me out when I am wrong. I love the outside perspective I can get from you all. This isn't my first rodeo with marriage, however I think it make me hardened in a sense and very difficult to please. I have high expectations and for some they cannot handle it. While others embrace it. I know I am in for a long journey. I don't know where it will lead, but I do know It will forever change me for better or for worse. Shape me into a new person as I continue my journey not only into adulthood but also my journey as a mother, wife and step mother.

Very nice!!!! I think this is a great idea. We have all these posts and blogs dedicated to complaining, crying, bitching, whining... let's see some positive posts!!!

I am Jenn. I am a young Step-mom (24) of 2 very amazing little skids, 5 and 2. I came into this very slowly, when I met my DH, I didn't even want children. Still not sure if I want my own, but his children continue to delight me, frustrate me, make me laugh and cry. I am a communications expert in an Emergency Call center dealing with wildfires, very high stress.

I am a skinny stick person that is a hard-core people pleaser, but lately I have found my backbone! I still love to do everything I can for people who deserve it, but you burn me? And that bridge is GONE, once it's gone, it NEVER comes back.

My DH could not be more amazing in my eyes. He has physical issues that keep him from doing everything he would like to, but is upbeat and always tries to be a great dad. I could not imagine life without him and his great kids..

Feels a little weird to say but.. I am grateful for both of my husbands BMs... Without them, my little family of 4 would not be here today.

Hi. My name is top. I'm 27. I'm mummy to two beautiful boys and stepmum to 1 great boy. I am English (with a little not of Irish and welsh splashed in) I'm average height with a good body. I have long dark hair and stunning blue eyes. My eyes have seen many sadness in my life. Some that I don't share openly. Only the people I trust most ever see my vulnerable side. That is how I've learned to be. If I open up too much to the wrong person then I get hurt. Period. The pain in my life has caused me many bad times but also it has created the woman I am today, for which I am thankful. I am fiercely loyal and if you hurt anyone I love you had better be sure to run and hide because I will hunt you down like a dog and make you wish you had never been born. I am extremely loving to those that deserve it and I always keep my word. People who I hate will always see me smiling. They will never get the better of me. Being a mum is my greatest achievement in life (including my degree) and I would lay down my life for my children. I am married to the most beautiful man on this earth. He is good inside and out and I owe him my life for making me this happy.

I like this post!

My name is Ghost. I am 42 but look a lot younger (yay!). I have been married for a year and a half to an amazing, supportive husband who "gets it." I am the mother of a wonderful BS17 who is a senior in high school. We've been spending time looking at colleges- eek! I also have a SS14, who has his issues but is a good kid overall. BS is with us 24/7/365, and we have SS two weeks on/two off. SS9 is completely PASed and doesn't have anything to do with us anymore. Turns out he isn't DH's anyway.

I am mostly Irish and Scottish. I have a Master's degree in Social Work and am working towards my black belt in the martial art that DH, BS and I are all involved in. I have a gold medal in board breaking, so watch out, BM! (LOL! Just kidding).

I hate stepparenting. It has not been rewarding at all so far. It's been nothing but a nightmare. I'd marry my DH again in a second, but I do hate dealing with skid crap and BM crap. BM has Borderline Personality Disorder. Bad.

I tell it like it is. I pull no punches. If I'm not happy, you'll know it! I am fiercely loyal and protective of my own. I'm finally at a place in my life where I think more about me and don't try to please other people. I have cut toxic people out of my life as much as I can.

I could write pages, but I guess that's enough!

Oh forgot to add, you guys on here really do feel like friends that I can open up too and I know you will always tell me what I need to here and for that I'm really thankful. Love this blog!!

Hello, my name is HappyCow. I am a true mix of everything from Irish, Italian, and a little German thrown in. I am tall and have gained weight over the last few years even though DH loves my curves I still feel the need to wear spanx to work on a daily basis. I am a step mom to one SD15. I have been in her life since she was three years old. DH and I got married within 7 months of knowing each other and most of our friends and family didn’t think it would last. This June will be our 12th wedding anniversary so they can all suck it. I have one DD6 who is a little me. You would think raising a duplicate of yourself would be easy but on a daily basis I wonder how much therapy she is going to need when she is an adult. I am fiercely loyal and when I make a decision I stick to it. We recently had SD15 come live with us full time and it has drastically changed the dynamic in the house. Some good some bad but I have learned the last two weeks that I can let go of the little things and focus on making my family as strong as I can. I have a great DH who is the person that I want to share everything with, who makes the bed each morning because it makes me happy, can make me laugh even when I am so mad at him, and is truly my other half.

Hey I'm Queen. I am a stepmom and we plan on having kids of our own in a few years. I have been married about a year & a half. I am 23 years old. I am a work in a lab, but am thinking about a career change. I am african american. I'm skinny as a rail & have big hair that I recently cut down because it was way too big. I love my sd6, even though she is annoying sometimes like all kids are. Her mom is a worthless piece of crap, so I am disengaged from her. DH keeps her away from me which is good. He treats me like a queen, thus my name lol. We have EOWE & school breaks & summer with SD6.

I don't put up with any crap. So DH doesn't have to try too hard to keep BM away from me, because she is slightly scared of me. I am not violent, but I will tell somebody all about themselves in a quick second if they insult or threaten me and mine. It is impossible to win an argument with me or talk over me. I give a lot of love. I treat people like they have the best intentions until they prove otherwise. I believe everyone has a little good in them. I didn't forgive anyone outside of my family until I was 21. I don't hold grudges anymore, but I use to be viscious.

I'm impatient which is why I think I am successful. I was married a week after I turned 22, I became a home owner at 22, I started my 401k at 21. I make good money for where we live & we are comfortable. I keep our house running smoothly and keep us organized. Up until recently, I made a lil more than DH. Now he makes a little more than me. I'm ambitious & so is DH. With his drive & my organization we are basically a power couple for our age, I am very proud of how far we have come & how much better SD's life has gotten on our end. I have no regrets what so ever. I think our success is why BM hates us/me because she dropped out of college after SD was born & has worked dead end jobs since. She also has another younger kid by another man. However, that's not my fault & even though she's a byotch if she needed help getting on her feet as far as us taking SD for awhile so she could finish school or w/e, I would be ok with that. We have even offered to take her son some weekends to give her a break, because his dad was MIA for about 3 years.

I'm not mean. I want whats best for everyone. I am honest though & I don't let people walk all over me. This post is very revealing and anyone who knows me would know it was me, but I don't care who sees what I write here really. Lol

This is a great idea!

My name is JMOM or MOM to J I am a 36 year old mother to BS13 and SM to SD 13. DH and I dated for 7 years (married for 2 1/2) years. I am of native american, african american, and irish decent (I check the african american option on all forms asking). I have been told that I am beautiful by random strangers and I often catch BM and SD staring at me. Recently I got a pixie cut that I'm loving. I will keep my hair short from now on.

I work in the business world (very casual) and lately I've been thinking about doing something different . . .I don't know what yet (maybe something in the medical field).

SD13 isn't a bad kid she's just different (the kid looks as if she's always miserable) . . .I spent some time trying to get her to open up but her social interactions are just weird. She has the look of leave me the "f" alone all the time. So I leave her alone. I really don't deal with BM (I think I intimidate her). We have never spoken and she apparently has no desire to form a relationship with me (thank GOD).

DH is a good guy . . .I love him to peices. He went through a lot with BM (she cheated). He's one of theose guys who wants to always make it work. . . .it didn't work with her (she found and upgrade). Well the upgrade dumped her after he found out she dumped her husband . . .He liked sneaking around. Sometimes I think DH tries to hard with SD . . .She's miserable when she visits because she wants to be left alone. I'm hoping pretty soon she'll start to vocalize this wish cause it's written all over her face. Can't blame DH for trying though

Hi my name is Tuff and i'm a stepmother.
}:)
i'm 'ethnically' a mut, with a small but very strong german streak. i'm a 34 sm to 3 boys, 15, 13, and just now 10. DH and i have been together 5 years (boys were 4, 8 and 10). i was completely self sufficient and content when we met, with my own house, car, bills, etc.
i'm 5'6, slender, and look far younger than my age. i'm an office manager and have been for 12 years- i'm damn good at what i do and proud of it.

i'm VERRRRY fortunate to have GOOD skids. aside from basic skid stuff, normal teen/tween stuff, it's dumbass and mil who are the issues...

i myself am a COD with a sm and a sd. i was raised in an incredibly close, restricted environment and found my wings when i said "fuck it, i'm out." but it was a good childhood and while i see a lot of the bad, i also see some good and try to pass that on.

i am a very soft soul inside, and i protect that with a vengeance. no one gets 'in' unless i let them.
i'm not from around here and folks can tell i am not intentionally rude, but i will say it like it is in black and white fact. if u dont like it, well tuff noogies.

This is great!

I am Overworked (seriously!! ) . I am 30 yrs old. I have 2 bios and one SS. My son and ss are one month apart so it is like having twins who are nothing a like and no genetic bond. We have all the kids all the time, except every other weekend. My life is crazy and there is always some kind of drama. I WISH that I could make it all stop. I am strong and independent to a fault. I have very few friends because I am slow to trust, but once you are "mine" you are in my life forever. Me and DH get each other on every level except when it comes to SS, which is why I am here.

My name is MisSTEP. I am 43 years old and have been married for 12 years. I have a DS23 and two skids, SD20 and SS19. I was born in Germany but have lived in the US since I was very young. I am currently working in Information Technology, which I enjoy.

I try to be a very easy going person. I have to. I have a couple of chronic illnesses that are potentially life threatening and are made worse with too much stress. Dealing with my DH's baggage - especially BM's vindictiveness - really hurt my health. But no more. The skids are both aged out now.

I came into being a SM with rose colored glasses on. I thought we would all be adults and parent for the best interests of all of our kids. I didn't realize that because BM had DH's kids, she felt like he should be with her or with nobody at all! I also severely underestimated how vindictive she would be and how she would use the skids as weapons.

Hello I am Zero!

I am 32 years old. I am mother to BS8 and SM to 4 and SGM to 2. Also 3 fur babies and a fish we just acquired.

My DH is 41 and we just got married this month after dating for 2 1/2 years. He mostly gets me and the situation and is pretty supportive.

I am a SD (on both sides) and have had no issues with that I love my SPs. (My SD and mom have actual been divorced for 20 years and SD passed away from cancer 2 years ago, but I loved him just like a dad).

I am a "say it like it is". I dont bullshit. I like to get to the bottom of the issue. I dont believe in sugarcoating anything.

My friends would describe me as animated, funny and caring. I do a lot of volunteer work.

I am a planner, organizer and probably somewhat controlling when it comes to my household.

I like to do Zumba, drink beer, play cards, clean/decorate/organize my house. I also like being outdoors and the sun. I tend to get depressed in the winter and struggle with that every year. I have had a lot of the same friends for 20+ years. I come from a small town. I love my family first.

I would love to garden and only cook fresh healthy meals and move away from processed foods. LOL. This is a long term goal for me.

I have a degree in Communications/PR but work in Legal for a bank.

I am mostly a single mom to my BS as his dad isn't fully involved. However DH is a good father figure for BS. I am not the typical BM that you hear about on this board I take my role as a mom very seriously.

I am disengaged from the skids- for my own sanity.

Hello! I'm Ann. I am a recovering SM. Yep, got through my 12 step program fairly quickly about a year ago. LOL. Hence the handle, AlreadyGone. By the time I found this place, it was too late. Although, I seriously doubt it would have changed anything, except that I probably would have left sooner. This step-parenting thing is NOT for the faint of heart, .

I'm 43 and enjoying my freedom these days. I traded in 2 SK's and a mentally damaged DH for greener pastures. I am now the proud mommy of a year old (give or take) mutt named Ryder, whom I rescued from a local shelter (he actually rescued me.) He was my reward for starting fresh. He has better manners than my xSK's and is far more intelligent than they ever hope to be, plus.... he's much more appreciative.

I'm American Indian (on my mother's side) and Irish/French/English (on my father's side.) Guess I'm a mutt too, lmao. As you can probably tell, I use humor to offset the ugliness in life. I am a SK myself but.... nothing like what you read about here. I love both of my SP's and even though my dad has been gone a few years now, I still have a great relationship with my SM. We still go out to see a movie or grab some lunch/dinner when our schedules permit. We talk on the phone once a week like clockwork. Sooo, it doesn't always end in StepHell, lol. Just sayin'.

I am sarcastic and have a wicked sense of humor. Friends and family would say that I am compassionate to a fault, loyal, trustworthy, honest (in a very direct way) and down to earth. However, they'll also tell you that I can hold a grudge forever, don't take $hit from anyone, and have a nasty habit of always trying to 'FIX' things or people. (The last one is not a good quality to have, I fear.) Oh, and I have a very well tuned bull$hit meter that ALWAYS gets me in to trouble, lol.

Let's see.... I'm taking a cooking class next month (authentic Italian) and I hope to visit Italy next year. I love to cook. I'm not Martha Stewart (wish I had her bankroll) but, I can hold my own, . I love to garden and usually give most of my fruits, veggies and flowers to neighbors and friends. I love the outdoors and all wildlife. I volunteer with a couple of animal rescue groups. I've been told recently that I have a knack for training pups so I try to teach household manners to pups waiting for their forever homes. If it helps, I'm happy to do it. If only SK's could be taught so easily, LMAO!

This was fun and I hope other's will keep adding to the thread.

My name is DarkStar. I'm going to be 40 in about a month and am trying to embrace it!

Married for 4 years, divorced for 6 years, no kids.
SO and I have dated for about 3 1/2 years. He has 3 kids, SS9, SD10, SD15. We live in separate suburbs on opposite sites of our city. I used to drive 1 hour round trip at least twice a week to have dinner with him and the kids. This summer we broke up because he said he didn't want to get married until I spent more time with his kids. :? We got back together after a month or so, but I do not visit skidtown and have not seen the kids since June. I guess I have a weekend boyfriend for now. SD15 is the major challenge and she graduates from high school in 2 years, so we'll see what happens!

I'm a network engineer, LOVE LOVE LOVE my job!!!! I love traveling, cooking, gardening, Zumba classes, and I've been reading Atlas Shrugged for the last couple of months (it's REALLY long!) I am very sarcastic and fiercely guard my role with my friends as "the funny one."
I used to like camping, but now my idea of a vacation involves room service. I am madly addicted to Steptalk and am on it almost every day.

I am in love with my furbaby, Lucy, a beagle/pointer mix. She is 8 months old and my furball sweetheart.

Hi i'm new to this. I'm way closer to 50 than I would like to be. I have one adult son, a SD15 and a SS30 and 3 beautiful grandchildren. DH is my third husband, first one was my son's father, we were married 6 years, second was just a mistake. Next month will be one year we have been married. We lived together for about 3 years. His daughter was the main reason I wouldn't marry him then damn if 3 months to the day after we were married she didn't move in with us. Been there for 8 months now. I had a pretty bad childhood, my bio mom gave me up for adoption, my adoptive mother died when i was eight, two months later my father married my stepmom who was only 9 years older than me. He was 21 years older than her. I hated her at first, I mean hated her. I caused her lots of problems. But as time when on and I grew up, I loved her. She was a great mother to me. They divorced when I was 15, my father was an alcoholic and he ran her off. I was the caretaker and I have spent lots of money in therapy to get over my life with my father. But I think just now am I am starting to let that resentment go and move on. I work a full time job. I love dogs. I have one that is my baby, he is 9 years old. I have 2 puppies from a stray in our neighborhood. I'm going to keep them, I have already gotten so attached. I love to cook just don't seem to have the energy or time anymore. I love the beach, we go there every summer. My DH and I are planning a trip to the mountains though in feb for my b'day.

I'm anon. I am 35, live in Southern California, and love, love, love the Beach Boys. I was a CP SM to SD18 who's now in college and still am to SD16. Fortunately, we all get along well. BM is largely out of the picture and has been for years. Needless to say, that's really hurt SDs, along with the real sexual abuse they endured at the hands of her many "boyfriends." But due to lots of counseling and their dad just loving them inside and out, they're doing ok. Every day is a day in progress.

I've lived in SoCal for my entire life. Somehow, I managed to get my Bachelors in political science. Since graduating, I have worked on campaigns, volunteered on them, and met many interesting people. I've worked in various capacities since I was 16. I still work part-time as a secretary.

I absolutely love spinning as an exercise and do it 5 times a week (or at least try to!) It's an amazing way to burn off calories and decrease stress and resentment. My stress and resentment levels are also decreased through writing and doing artwork. They're also, oddly, decreased through doing genealogical research. I love learning about my ancestors and seeing old pics of them (actually came across a person I really look like )

I have two precious pups at home and love them to bits and pieces. One's a goldendoodle and the other is a yellow lab.

I'm both a SD and SM. Thankfully, my parents put me above their personal feelings for each other and never badmouthed each other to me. They also taught me to be respectful to my stepparents. My dad cheated on my mom with my stepmother and married her a week after the divorce. It was awkward and a lot of pain was involved. But we all survived

I have huge crushes on Errol Flynn, Hugh Grant and Dennis Wilson of the Beach Boys. They're yummy