Ugh!!! Sorry this is so long!! So we went through parent alienation back in 2011. SD didn’t want anything to do with DH. He still maintained a presence in her life, didn’t bad mouth her BM and we prayed that she would see how things with her BM really were. Things really started turning around in 2012. We have always said we want her to be happy in both places. She is not a prize to be won…...but a gift that we cherish. So things started breaking down between her and the BM late last year. SD expressed an interest that she wanted to be with us at least 50% of the time if not more. We said we would pursue going 50% since we thought it was in her best interest to have equal time with both BM and DH. We hired an attorney (major expense), worked on an agreement where we do basically 5 on and 5 off with a couple days during the week so that neither parent would go 7 days without seeing her and quite honest it was measure to protect SD so that when her and the BM would blow up at each other…she wasn’t stuck there for 7 straight days. BM kept pushing for 7 on 7 off, but finally agreed to plan since SD wanted this as well. SD will be 14 soon so age is not an issue. We have being doing every Mon – Tues with Mom. Every Wed – Thurs with Dad and then weekends alternate since Spring. Has worked out well with everyone adjusting. Final court papers will be finalized in the next week. NOW SD thinks it’s too much and wants 7 on 7 off (like her mother wanted at the beginning). DH told BM...she needs to consult with her attorney and file the changes since they are coming from her side! So frustrated that changes keep happening at the last minute! SD has never been told no by BM. DH seems to be the only person in her life that is trying to make her a well-balanced person. No one ever gets their way all the time. It’s life and you learn to give and take, but whatever SD wants she gets. I really am done right now. We have buffered, comforted and been the voice of reason between SD and BM. Now that things are better with BM (which they should be since that is best for SD), SD is back to playing games, always playing victim and having to get her way. Told DH last night I am done trying to be the glue that holds the family together (like most moms do) and not have a say in anything. He will have to figure out schedules, how to get her after school; make sure laundry is done for her. Told him I can’t continue to leave this way anymore. For more than 7 years my schedule has been completely dominated by the BM who would constantly flip flop and change things. Now SD is taking over that role. I can’t change anyone but myself so I’m choosing to step away and see how they function. DH is frustrated by all of this too, but he has let it go on too long without finally telling saying NO! Whew….thanks for letting me vent 