To gift or not to gift....that is the question....
I have seen a lot of posts on whether Step Moms with no bio-kids should receive a gift for Mother's Day. My feelings are if you are an active "parent" in your family then you should be acknowledged. It's the same for Father's Day. Since I have no bio children, my DH is not the father of my children, but I still try to make it special for him and take the SD (15) shopping for her dad.
It does make sense to have no expectations, but it hurts when you are involved and consider yourself part of a family and it seems either like an after thought or something they really don't want to do.
I always enjoy the...."well I was going to do...." You don't get credit for woulda, shoulda or coulda.
I think going forward I have to talk to DH and set realistic expectations for both Mother's Day and Father's Day. It's funny....my family acknowledges him for Father's day with cards, etc (again we do not have children together) but I don't hear anything from Mom to me on Mother's Day. I get along great with his mother, but it would just be nice to feel just a bit appreciated.
Guess I have to learn to let it go....
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Yes it does hurts. Good
Yes it does hurts. Good thing we all have each other to get through it and Mother's Day is over for the year
Maybe I should let it go from
Maybe I should let it go from DH and just tell him to get me something from my two fur babies....lol I like that! It's never about the amount of money. It's about making the effort to appreciate what we do as SM. It goes both ways. One of the reasons I feel in love with DH was because he was a great dad to his daughter, but I don't want to put a lot of effort into Father's Day if Mother's Day basically comes and goes without a lot of notice.