uBPD, more likely cluster b, definitely high-conflict personality, golden uterus, so basically the alphabet soup of personality disorders lol Publicly she sells herself as a wee widdle 'victim', behind the scenes she's a nasty, loud, my-way-or-the-high-way, cussing, police threatening cow!

Wow. That felt good to get out lol

Physically:

Short, super thin now, but wasn't when DH left her so her skin is loose and saggy. Long frizzy mousy blond hair that is always either down and in her face or slicked back in a bun. My friend calls her "Onion Head" because that's what it looks like. She has open sores on her face, her teeth are terrible and falling out. She has smoked for 22 of her 34 years and her skin is a reflection of that. She looks MUCH older than she is. Put it this way, think of your typical meth addict and that's BM. She dresses like an old lady and has ZERO sense of style.

Emotionally:
She's a train wreck. She can't handle being an adult, so she just doesn't act like one.

Mentally:

She has fried all of her brain cells.

Like a Gothic Kirstie Alley With the class of a Maury guest.

Swamp:

Physically: 5'3"/ 5'4" about 140 lbs. Fake blonde hair, blue eyes. Wears her long hair straight down or in a ponytail with feathered bangs. Her boobs are fake too. Wears skinny jeans, white sneakers and a pink or white top. This makes her feel younger. NEVER smiles, never looks happy.

Mentally: I think she's narcissistic. Has no empathy or conscience. Doesn't see how the world see's her...Crazy. Example, one day she decided to go to the therapist the skids were going to see and threatened him with a law suit in the middle of the waiting room. The therapist offered her to speak in private with her and she said she had no time but continued her rampage. The therapist said he was going to lunch and she followed him out the door. As he's walking she's yelling at him down the street. :O

Emotionally: very insecure, threatened by my very existence and uses terms like a 5 year old, like "shoo, shoo go back to your own little world"

Swamps the biggest, ugliest bitch I have ever met.

BM # 1: short-ish blonde hair, blue eyes.. kind of weird teeth, not in a meth kind of way.. in a bad genes kind of way (we know this bc she so sweetly awarded SS4 with these same teeth AND let him sleep with a bottle past 2yo, so yeah, he is getting them capped this week) About 5'3, 120-130 pounds so kinda small but definitely have that belly pouch that comes from popping a few kids out.

When she doesn't take her medicine, example is to have a screaming fit in the walmart parking lot at Drop-off when she first met me. "Oh DH, but I still love you!! I just always thought we would end up back together" forgetting that she called him abuser, druggie, anything she could to get custody and when that didnt work, ran across 4 or 5 states with SS and had to be brought back by police action. -WHEW-

When she DOES take her medicine, she is pretty easy to deal with, flighty though, which is the norm with BMs. She can never figure out when to stop talking, to SS, to DH, to Me, anyone who will listen. ABOUT NOTHING.

BM # 2: previously blonde hair and blue eyes (see a pattern here?) but a few weeks after meeting me (brown eyes, brown hair) her hair mysteriously darkened to a dark brown color.. One of those women that LOVES nothing better than to spend DHs money on weekly nail salon trips and hair stylists. Very tiny. Maybe 5' even, under 100 lbs. I am 5'3 and 105 pounds and she makes me look like a heavy weight lol

Always looks amazing (hate to say it but its true) every single drop off or pick up, dress and high heels, full face of make up. you get my drift. It gets annoying to say the least especially since I am a jeans and T kind of girl and I feel like she dresses up just to see DH.

She also pulled the "Oh but I still love you so much" when she met me, until DH pointed out that SHE left him while still pregnant btw.

Luckily they don't jerk us around too much with the skids but every now and then, they do a little power struggle, just to test the waters I guess.

BM#1
Physically- Tall, pretty, not big or small pretty average. Always done up, looks better as she's aged. Looked like shit when she was married

Emotionally- TO INVOLVED WITH A FAMILY THAT SHE ISN'T APART OF...she gets way too involved in our family stuff and it has NOTHING to do with her. She still feels like she's part of the family even after being apart from it for 15 years.

Mentally- Controlling, still controls everything her adult kids do. EVERYTHING, they still live at home even though they are 28, 24 and 21. But does party with them and their friends. The party house for sure on Friday nights, Saturday nights and all day Sunday. I guess because she was a teen mom shes making up for lost time.

BM#2
Physically- She's cute, she's shaped funny though. long neck, long arms, short torso and kinda heavy. I guess after 3 kids her ass just expanded every which way.

Emotionally- NO COMMENT!

Mentally- If ever anyone suffered from DUMBASSNESS this would be the prime example of it. She is extremely dumb. The way she speaks, the way she thinks, she's a patholigical liar. Loves to party and is on her 4 kid with her 4th man. Obviously doesn't know how to use a condom. Always plays the victim and thinks she's perfect. NOT! They broke the mold when they made this idiot.

Hmm. Rode hard and put up wet past her prime meth ho wanna-be geriatric barbie.

Eta wasn't nearly that trashy when skids were smaller- unfortunately I've been subjected to pictures- thanks m.I.l....

Where has Missstresss been? I would soooo love her beautifully poetic prose on her poutine loving pbr swiggin b.m!!!!!!

Physically: looks like a cavewoman, Shrek, or a man. Take your pick.

Emotionally/Mentally: She is all over the place. She is Bi-Polar. Possibly BPD, too. Plays the victim to outsiders very well, but is an abusive control freak. She is somewhat easy to deal with on meds, but when she is off her meds, there is no talking to her. She can't take responsibility for her own actions. Everything is someone else's fault. She feels entitled and will do whatever it takes to get more money from DH. She consistently forgets that she is the one who kicked DH out and filed for divorce.

Physically .. She is built like a 12 year old :sick: she's about 5 ft and maybe weighs 80lbs when she is not pregnant. While pregnant she gains about 15lbs :? She just miscarried her 6th pregnancy with her druggie BF. She is 42 and trying hard to pop out another kid so the government can support her for the next 18 years at least that's her plan. She had not aged well she looks about 10 years older than she is years of smoking have not been kind to her.

She has a big head with frizzy mousy brown hair that's thinning she pulls it back in a severe pony tail most of the time. Which really accentuates her horse face }:) There is absolutely nothing redeeming about the woman at all. She is a horrible mother, refuses to work , creates drama every second of her life. Controls and manipulates her kids 24/7 scams people for money or things whenever she needs something. But always has her 2 packs of cigarettes and Starbucks coffee every day. Just a loser thru and thru.

I don't think BM is super unattractive in any way. She has red hair which she dyes with blonde and it's pretty. She weighs about 210 but she's lost a ton of weight. She kind of has a bit of a man face, but I can still see where she's pretty. She has brown eyes. She'd be a lot better if she tried. She hardly ever wears make up and she's always in baggy crap clothes.

She lives off the government and doesn't work. She's stupid. She can't spell. She's completely dramatic and childish. And she's bipolar (diagnosed). She claims a myriad of other ailments, however, she's also a habitual liar so you really don't know what is true or not.

fDH liked best about her that she was laid back and low maintenance. I'm pretty laid back and low maintenance, but I still take care of myself.

This is fun!

Physically, BM is of average height & build, maybe slightly overweight. But her face looks like Shrek - big bulbous nose, grey, wrinkled skin from years of smoking, drinking & drugging. The best part is her giant face mole that seems to get bigger every time I see her. When I show her mugshot to people, the first thing they ask is if she's on meth!! Her hair is mousy & frizzy & she usually just keeps it slicked back in a ponytail because she apparently lacks any beauty skills whatsoever as I have never seen her with her hair "done" or any discernible make-up. I guess she thinks the "natural" look works for her. She also lacks any fashion sense. She dresses terribly - just can't put clothes together. Like summery dresses with black super high stripper heels. Just frumpy, ugly, cheap clothes. I have never seen her teeth as I have never seen her smile. She looks like the world's most miserable person. The only thing she puts any effort into is her nails. Every time I have seen her, she seems to be sporting a fresh mani-pedi. Only she has what we call in my area of the country "stripper nails" which only accentuate her giant man-hands.

I used to ask DH what he saw in her. He always insisted that she didn't always look like that. But I've seen pics. She looked only slightly better when they were together. I finally stopped talking about it to him because 1) I just don't care 2) he's never going to admit that he dated & knocked up a fugly loser & 3) I see signs that SD (who I care about very much) may be going to end up looking like her mom. Sometime when she makes a certain kind of face or pulls her hair back in a ponytail, I can see her mom & it makes me really sad. I have already told DH that if she ends up with her mom's nose that I personally will pay for a nosejob for her 18th b-day.

Mentally & emotionally, she is classic BPD. Claims she is a "recovering alcoholic" but her DUI arrests tell a different story. Abusive to SD, both physically & emotionally via PAS. Can't keep a job or a man. Lives with her dad & declared bankruptcy recently so she has no bills, yet uses DH as her bank. Always a victim & plays the poor, single mom card like a pro. All her problems are someone else's fault (usually DH's). Puts herself first in every situation, has zero empathy. Pathological liar. Over-the-top fake to anyone she's trying to impress (teachers, coaches, doctors, etc.). Munchausens-by-proxy syndrome when it comes to SD. Just an all around terrible, terrible person. Until I met DH, I had no idea that there were actually people like this walking among us - I just assumed if you were that dysfunctional, you were already locked up in jail or institutionalized. I thank my lucky stars every day that I am not her.