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Bio's getting lumped in when SS has bad behavior

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 06/14/2013 - 10:48am

Does anyone else have a spouse/SO that will lump your bios in whenever their child acts like a fool?

DH is famous for this. SS will be his normal little shitty self and DH will get mad and send everyone to their rooms! I just stand there half the time with this face :jawdrop:

BD will be playing with dolls and BS on the kindle and all of the sudden they are grounded. It is the most bazaar thing! It's like if he can't handle his son then they are all bad kids.

It breaks my heart but I feel like I have to back him up for a minute until I calm him down. I am a firm believer in a united front when it comes to kids but he has to be trying to kill me with this crap! After I talk some sense into him I will call my bios down stairs and allow them to play again but this just leads to resentment from DH. IT'S YOUR KID WHO HAS THESE EXTREME ISSUES!!

I am not saying my kids are perfect, they are far from it! But they aren't malicious and mean spirited like SS is. They don't look out for ways to get in trouble. It happens some times, they leave bikes in the front yard, they pout or even back talk when told to do some chores, they are normal kids. SS just seems to sit and think of ways to make the others cry. He breaks their toys and says "ok, well he didn't play with it anymore so it doesn't matter". That's when they will ALL get in trouble :jawdrop: . I am about sick of my DH saying "Those kids are all in for a rude awakening! I am going to start coming down on them hard!" --- How about you just actually handle your kid and leave mine alone!

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 06/14/2013 - 11:01am

At least it is only every other weekend for you! SS lives with me full time. The incubator only has him 2 nights a month. We go back to court next friday and I am secretly praying she gets EOW fri-sun!

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Submitted by princessmofo on Fri, 06/14/2013 - 10:55am

Yes. And I quickly put a stop to it. SS once lied, bold faced, to dh and myself about something he did. He asked my oldest bioson what happened and he hesitated, not wanting to get ss in trouble. He finally, after being asked three times, told dh what ss had did. Do you know what dh did? He punished my bio for NOT being forthcoming and punished ss too. I lost my sh*t! I pulled dh into our bedroom and told him if he pulled anything remotely like that again they would be removing my fist from his ass surgically. He still tries to occasionally pull this but I have told him it is not fair to punish all the kids for one kids mistakes and if he'd like to pull that card I will happily punish his kid for my kids mistakes. Put your foot down, or in this case, up your dh's ass! "How about you just actually handle your kid and leave mine alone!" I would say that to your dh.

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Submitted by Lalena75 on Fri, 06/14/2013 - 12:21pm

SO does that more when his kids get in trouble by me, after a 2nd time in trouble I get him and tell him to handle tgem. Then he'll say something shitty about my ds behavior as a comparison (yes because an 11y/o and 5/6 y/o who are apple and pork chops is sane) I just look at him and say "I'm hmmm neither of my kids have ever had the cops on them."