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wreck's picture

Submitted by wreck on Tue, 05/14/2013 - 1:10pm

I just don't understand why would my husband pay so much attention to three bitchy teens and give in to their every wish, while completely ignoring an innocent sweet baby who doesn't even ask for anything. Sad

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step off already's picture

Submitted by step off already on Tue, 05/14/2013 - 1:20pm

in my experience, men are dumb.

we need to tell them what we need without them feeling attacked or they become defensive.

I've followed your story and it sounds like DH wants to be the cool dad with his teen aged skid. Maybe he feels guilty. It's hard to say.

PeanutandSons's picture

Submitted by PeanutandSons on Tue, 05/14/2013 - 2:18pm

Some men don't bond well with babies. My dh is very aloof with them until they are a few months old and their personalities really come out.

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Submitted by MotherTrucker on Tue, 05/14/2013 - 3:29pm

So far in my life, I have tried to answer this very question about 1,000 times. DH did it, my brother did it, my father did it to my kids. Men are uncomfortable around babies. It gets easier for them when the kids are older. My dad actually told me one time, "when she is older I will get to know her better" at the time it hurt, but now I understand. As my girls have gotten a litle older, my DH spends a lot more time and attention on them. It was a bone of contention with us for a long time because I felt like I was doing ALL of the work! I think men like it when they can get some kind of response back when interacting with another human being.