Let me say that dh has been an ass all weekend. Just grouchy, Unpleasant, not particularly nice to me. Saturday morning- we had made a trip to walmart and the subject of his parents came up. Somehow he decided I was not totally blameless in the fact that they have been asses to me for years. I admit I freaked a little. Really, dh, what have I done to them? Please tell me and I will give it so e significant thought and then if I do share blame will gladly admit it. But, nada, he couldn't actually come up with anything. Then he said something about me starting this little argument I had with fil, again, I flipped my lid and reminded him that I hadn't even spoke to mr crazy in like 2 years- and the only reason I sent the nut job a message was because he had just sent a nasty message to dh telling him to pass on nasty messages to me and then proceeded to get on. My Facebook and leave comments to my kids- so I told him to leave us alone. Oh, yeah, dh forgot.

I thought this was totally random. He spent the rest of Saturday totally ignoring me. Seriously. Sunday he was marginally better. Wished me happy Mother's Day but then nada. No card, no gift, nothing. Last year I got an iPad. I didn't necessarily expect an iPad, but hey there a huge middle ground between an iPad and nothing. We've been together 13 years and this is the first Mother's Day I've received absolutely nothing,

When I tried to ask him what was wrong he simply said he had a lot on his mind. So, yeah, I discovered what it was this afternoon. Apparently on Friday his pal took him to his granpa's to pay his respects for gma's death. If you read previous blog you will see that dh did not attend the funeral as my fil told him he wasn't wanted there, others didn't want him there, and there may be a scene if he goes. Dh did not want to create any issues for his grandpa so he opted to stay home. Well. Gpa,s truck was there but he didn't answer the door. So he calls his mom who lives next door to see if he had walked over there. Well the shitstorm begins. Apparently his whole freaking family is in the background talking shit about him and he can hear them. His father gets on the phone and tells him his gap is basically not going to forgive him for not showing up. Dh said, "you're the one who told me not to go!" To which my fil replied that if dh was a real man he would have gone no matter who said what. Omg. Then he is back to talking to his mom and said something about our rv that is parked over there. It's been parked there for a couple years. Not sure if it is on my mils property of dh's grandpa's. it is a 5th wheel. We no longer have a truck to move out or would have moved it out when all this crap started. He said something to hear about thinking he may have found someone to move it, but he needed to check the tires. At that point, he was told that we needed to pay them 6 months of payments( years ago when we were Ina financial bind they offered to pay 6 months of payments- not a loan- nothing signed- just that they'd do it for us). They did not pay 6 months but maybe 2 or 3. The late statement would come to our house and I went ahead and paid it. So they told him he needs to pay that before we can get it back. They then told him that they had contacted an attorney and that it is considered abandoned so they can take it anytime they like? Wtf?

They've never asked us to move it. He'll, I'm not even sure it is in dh's name or if it is in just mine.

Then they of course brought up sil again. Told dh that he is a liar that he gave her permission to get all those credit cards to BUY DRUGS. Really, you dumbasses? Do you really think people purchase drugs with a credit card? If they did, do you think they could purchase the, at American eagle, the dollar store, and walmart? Which is where she used the cards. Do you not even grasp that your son has 6 freaking years of sobriety and has random drug screens every month throu pain management at the va? He's not even on pain meds at all. He refuses them! But yeah he gave sil permission to open credit cards, buy drugs from American eagle, and then decided to turn her in to the police?

So I'm just pissed. I'm pissed at them. Again. I'm pissed at dh for being such an asshole and allowing them to disrupt our lives. For speaking to them again. I asked him what the hell sort of magical powers do these fucktards hold? How can in one conversation you decide that I am to blame or things are my fault when you didn't feel that way 5 minutes earlier.

I also told him that he should get it now. Because they are doing to him exactly what they did to me for freaking years. Everything he will do is wrong. It mattered not whether he went to his gma's funeral or not- he is going to be labeled an asshole either way. He is an asshole for wanting to come get the camper/ for leaving the camper there. He was an asshole for going to see gpa( they were actually in the background saying how dare he go over there after not showing up, why would he want to wake up gpa if he's in there sleeping). He'd be an asshole if he hadn't.

Sorry to vent- just pissed. Pissed even more knowing that ss is there and part of these conversations and calling my kids names at school.

Pissed because dh didn't acknowledge me on moms day because his own mom is such a flaming bitch.