Ok-folks again I appreciate you listenting to my ramblings that are not really step related but more inlaw related. I am just so angry at everyone of my dh's freaking family members that I am fantasizing about beating them up. I am trying to get a lid on all these feelings, but I am just appalled.

I think last I left off, sil had been arrested. Both my mil and fil, called dh separately, yelled at him, and then hung up on him. my fil called dh "a piece of shit". In the meantime, dh has left messages with ss who has not returned his calls or spoke to him for over a month, dh is not speaking to bil either.

Fil did call back the next day and apologize-saying he shouldnt have said what he did. Dh sits on that a few days and then calls back. (which I believe was a mistake of course). He talked with mil, fil, and bil. Apparntly sil is telling them that dh requested that she open credit card accounts for him and purchase things so I wouldnt find out about them (like why he'd want to hide purchasing a playstation game, American eagle clothes in her size, or assorted items from the dollar general store is beyond comprehension)but that's the story she gave them-which again if he had some reason to hide purchases from me-surely he'd just pay cash? Or use his own credit card that is already in his name? Well, anyway I digress. She also told them that dh was with her on the stops to the liqour store and she bought them both drinks (my dh has been completely sober for 5 years but apparently not something the family takes note of). Again why he would want her to put liqour on a high rate credit card when he could have just paid cash does not even make sense. Not to mention half these purchases were made when we were out of town-and can prove that we were out of town. So if all that is not implausible enough, to sweeten the pot, she is telling all of dhs family (and I mean all of it from aunts, uncles, grandparents, etc) that dh is on drugs which is why "he is doing this". Again, my dh is completely sober. He got a dui about 5 and half years ago and no longer drinks anything, nor has he ever had any problems iwth drugs. He is on probation still for the dui-as it was held over for years due to dh being overseas and then injured in the military-he will be off in a few months-but he gets drug and alcohol screened montly and has for about a year. Next, dh informs me that at one point sil texted him and told him if he did not stop asking her to pay him back (this is when he first found out about the credit cards) she was going to tell everyone that he was "hitting" on her-she actually texted this.

What I am so disturbed about is that ALL of these relatives-inlcuding his mom, dad, grandpa, aunts etc all appear to believe sil. No questions asked. When dh talked to mil and fil-he presented to them that we were out of town, hey dont you remember I'm completely sober, and have the drug/alchol screens to prove it-and yet they STILL believe her. They ended up telling dh they dont want to take sides, but apparently they bonded her out and paid to retain an attorney. Dh did run into an uncle-who said he had heard about all of it (one not likely to hear from sil, but rather mil)and he did support dh by saying EFF Sil-so he does feel good about that. but all of his other relatives are loaning her money, leaving her messages on facebook about how they are here to help her thruogh this difficult time, blah, blah, blah. She is on facebook leaving messages about how she does not like all this drama in her life, please pray for her to get through this hardship, she's so grateful she has family that loves her and sticks by her, blah, blah, gag, puke.

I am so outraged because I have ate shit from these craptastic people from day one of my 12 year relationship-literally. Fil and sil were blatantly disapproving of our relationship and made sure everyone knew it. My inlaws have ignored and not acknowledged my kids and their own granddaughter for their entire lives-It hit me the other day that my mil, who lives 10 minutes away, has NEVER watched my 10 dd (her bio granddaughter) in her entire life. Not for an afternoon, an overnight, or even an hour. Has NEVER asked to spend time with her, has never came to her dance recitals, softball, basketball, soccer games, or cheer functions. They do not attend grandparents day at her school (although they attend for her cousin at the same school). And it just made me want to vomit. One of the reasons I ate shit was because I tried to tell myself that they loved dh and he loved them and at least they pretend to be good to him (I've always felt teh took advantage of him). Now, that's not even true! I ate all that shit simply so they would have THIS opportunity to eff him up the behind.

Sorry for my crazy ranting-I am just disgusted at this whole sick extended family system that wants to persecute a victim and protect the offender.