Trying to get them out of my head but dammit they keep popping up. Started a few eeks ago when my fil randomly messages dh saying nasty things to him, telling him to tell me hateful things, and then getting on my Facebook photos of my girls saying how much he loved them and missed them. This started a little Facebook exchange between he and I which actually felt pretty good- considering it was the first time in 13 years I've stood up to this shit.

Unfortunately it didn't end there- in the midst of these messages he informs me tha dh's gma just died in the next room. Fil went to the viewing and took that opportunity To talk crap about dh and let everyone know that dh didn't want to attend and that he wasn't welcome to attend. So dh calls fils and confronts this bs. Fil backs down and said dh can come but that I had told him dh didn't want to be there ( I said no such thing). So dh plans to go. Then fil calls him again the next morning and tells him to not go as his presence will apparently offend too many people (because of what fil and my sil were sayi g about him!). So he just doesn't go. But he's been down ever since.

The we've had two diffrerent people approach dd15 this weekend and tell her about how ss talks about her and the family all the time. Told one kid that he tries to call dh every day but dh will never speak to him. Strange considering he told dh he didn't have a dad any longer back in January and to never try and talk to him again. The other kid told dd that he refers to us as a bunch of bastards. Lovely.

I try not to let this nonsense bother me- and am fairly successful most of the time- it just feels as if there has been an assault lately.

Dh is still processing all this. After he talked to fil the first time I think he actually felt maybe they could call a truce and was somewhat hopeful? But really all that happened was he opened the door a crack to his dad only to have him slam it in his face the next day. Oh, the week prior to fils message, mil and ss came over here wanting the insurance card. Which dh gave them a copy. He tried to speak with ss- who would. Not even look up at dh- just looked down and answered in monosyllabic answers.

Help me get these nasty people out of my head! I'm tired of them taking up space!