I Have to step kids 9 and 11 girls. Last night sd11 tells mom that she wants to sleep in our bed not her own and to have me sleep on the floor. I said noway. At this point she wants to get all attitude with me and tell me its her moms choice. Its hard to keep my cool. Later i tell my wife that when our bathroom room is complete we are going through a remodel that our room and bathroom if off limits. Im so tired of them just coming in whenever they want to get whatever they want. I feel we need a nice private place to relax while they have free reign over the rest of house. At this point she gets pissed at me and says im not raising them that way. if they want to come in and do whatever i have to just get over it. Im a stewing. i get attitude from them over everything. They act like im picking on them if i ask for them to clean their rooms or do anything to help out. My wife will not back me on anything. if i try and correct them she comes down on me. She says im making them hate me cause i get on them. I say no you want them to be my girls to i will treat them like it and demand help around the house. Am I wrong? Its been 3 years and I am almost ready to walk. We have a 8month old of our own. If i want to play with my son or spend time with him i get told im showing him more then them. Im getting drained of it all. I have no say so in anything.