One of my cousins got married on Valentines day.

He was previously divorced has two kids of his own (the kids live w BM- who is a bi+ch). New wife was divorced with two kids of her own, one grown and out of the house one who is 12 (kinda short tho poor kid looks about 8). Cousin is retired military, his new wife is still in the military and has an impressive amount of rank sitting on her sleeve.

Cousin and new wife live out of state. They flew down to FL today so the family in Florida could meet new wife. (Her kids did not come this trip, will over the summer). Cousins XW lives in FL, and about an hour away from where the "reunion" was taking place. His XW ever so graciously offered to drop them off. I am sure you ladies see what is coming.

I arrived early, finished helping set up, family starts arriving and shortly after the newly weds show up and the XW showed up with the kids. Then she walked her happy a$$ into the house and dropped into a chair making herself at home. Luckily cousins kids immediately ran outside to go play with all the other kids in attendance.

Yeah, no. None of us could stand her when she was married to him. Hell I sent him a congrats card when they divorced... I believe his mother did too. (And considering the family is catholic that's saying something!)

Cousin tried to get XW to leave, while the elders (my mom, aunts, uncles etc) stood around looking really uncomfortable. XW proceeded to tell my cousin that we were "her family too". I vaguely remember my mother calling my name and saying "Don't" but I regressed to teenagehood and ignored her.

I left the kitchen (sisters house) helped XW out of her chair (ok yanked her up by one arm) and walked her over to the door, explaining quietly (for me) No, you are not family. You are ex family. That is what divorce is all about. You are not welcome here. We did not invite you. Get in your car and leave before I utterly humiliate you in front of all these people who a) you consider family and b) who realize I am having this talk with you... and are not coming to save you from the big Bi+ch. No... I am not telling you when the party ends, your children's FATHER will bring them home.

Goodbye... get lost.. has not been nice seeing you.

She found herself outside a closed, locked front door. Luckily my sisters house has a 6' privacy fence that is locked around it so she could not attempt to get into the back yard where the kids (teenagers) were. She did leave but peeled out and left rubber marks in my sisters drive way.

The 'elders' immediately relaxed and went into social mode. Cousin thanked me, and was amazed she didn't put up more of a struggle not to leave. I think if he had tried to remove her she would have. The fact it was another relative, who she does not know well, who was intentionally being as direct/cruel/mean as possible took the wind out of her sails and she couldn't think fast enough to react.

Talked with the new wife a bit. Apparently XW has been a PASing twat since my cousin started dating her. She was tickled the new family chose her over the XW and to be honest she is really sweet, a likable person, very quick to laugh and joke around. Very affectionate with my cousin and he is walking around with perma grin. Trust me that's one HELL Of an upgrade for him considering during his 15 year marriage, I never saw him smile at all. Not even in the wedding pictures.

New wife, my sisters and I are all going shopping tomorrow. Outlet malls here we come!!