cheating, divorce, re-marriage, having children out of wedlock,...so many of the golden rules could prevent so much heartache. but, people would be stuck in "unhappy" marriages, prevented from "finding" themselves, declaring its "just a piece of paper", unable to have multiple sex partners, foisting their children down a new spouse's throat because they don't want the responsibility of parenting...following the bible would simply make life too boring for alot of people.

Well, God knew what he was doing when he made the commandments. Unfortunately, life doesn't always work that way. Free Will...

None of this has anything to do with the bible. You could do it all "right" and still have everything go wrong.

Before I start, I am not knocking anyone's' beliefs. I grew up in the church and this is my opinion based solely on my observations of the ultra religious people I was around childhood to adulthood.

The thing about the marriage in the bible, it was written thousands of years ago when women were treated like chattel. Men had multiple wives in those days. Fathers used their daughters as bartering tools to gain land, money or possessions. Women had no value except how hard we can work and how many sons we could bear. When the husband tired of his wife, he got a new one. In the bible, the only good wives were the subservient ones. Men acted as they pleased until they pissed off god, then they changed their tune.

The bible has nothing to do with successful marriages.

Common sense, respect, common courtesy and understanding you get what you give makes a successful marriage.

Unfortunately, we don't always look for these traits in others when we're young because we're in looooooooovvvvvvvveeeeee.

The have one friend, out of many, that married after high school. She and her husband are still married, very happy, very successful, have two children and a new granddaughter. They have always treated each other with kindness and respect. They probably have the best relationship I've ever witnessed and they are still very much in love nearly 28 years later.

If my exh hadn't been a lying cheater, he'd of never been a controlling paranoid ass (projecting his own behavior on me)and we'd probably be happily married still, but he was what he was, divorce kept me from suicide which is a sin too in the bible sense of things so I see it as we should be a lot more careful and selective of who we marry. A lot more, like psych evals, and background checks, and honesty tests (did you know Staples and Kmart make you take those with your application?) Then you have my own mother's situation, 25 years she's dated the same man they can't get married because he has a wife, wife knows of the mistress (my mom) and knows he had others before her. Wife won't divorce cause of religion. My mom's bf is very sick and has asked to be made a dnr, he will be taken care of at home at his wife's home, wife called my mom to ask if she'd come take care of him while she works. I think the whole thing is messed up, but they all 3 have had and enjoyed their own separate lives outside of their involvement. I hate it because I have less respect for my mother because of what I went through as the scorned wife, but unlike me the wife doesn't care she's going to heaven (exactly what she said)

Bible or not, divorce isn't always ideal. Sometimes it's vital, though. Our challenge isn't always making the "right" choice instead of the wrong choice. Sometimes we're faced with just trying to make the better choice.

Divorce saved me.