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Submitted by Paranoid Sm on Wed, 01/09/2013 - 9:04pm

You guys have good arguments. Though he tells me he loves me all the time and says he hates her and would never o back to her, so i think that's my problem. He has told me this over and over i just can't seem to believe him. He watches my daughter when im at work after he gets off of work and he helps pay for things that i could never afford. It has been awhile since he has picked her drunk ass up but idk if he just said no or she just doesn't ask anymore and if that's the case will he if she starts again. He says he loves our family and doesn't want to break it up. I feel like i'm just paranoid, hints the name lol. He trys to reassure me. I just think he should be able to have a back bone. He has a court agreement. He pays child support but they are making their own rules and because hes a every weekend dad and not an every other weekend dad which is what they have in their arrangement she gets to use my sd as a tool. He doesn't want to be an every other weekend dad so he gives in to her a women he so called hates. He hasn't gone back after every attempt she has tried. I am young but I also bring fears from my ending marriage. I love my sd and will hate to lose her not to mention my bd will lose another dad. He's young and has been a parent for only 2yrs. doesn't he need time to work through this new situation or am i just kidding myself?

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Submitted by princessandthepee on Wed, 01/09/2013 - 10:54pm

I've never thought to ask my husband if he would go back to his ex. It's never occurred to me he might be drawn to another other than his princess cunt daughter. That's its own story that utimately will have a good ending. All things do. You must follow your insticts. This doesn't mean trash it all, it does seem though, to mean, you don't trust him and he must be worthy of your trust.

I've learned, there is nothing, absolutely nothing, without trust. If you have trust, you can contemplate respect. With trust and respect, there is possibility.

You don't believe he is being honest with you. So, reduce the conversation

to honesty.

You've everything to gain.

Reduce him to honesty.

All good souls crave it.

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Submitted by Paranoid Sm on Thu, 01/10/2013 - 12:16am

I did in fact cheat on my ex husband i have been separated from him for 2 years. He wasn't a good man that doesn't excuse my actions no matter the situation. He (bf) never cheated on his ex she broke up with him while she was pregnant. I came in as a friend and helped him through the situation once she had the baby we were already a couple then decided she wanted him back. Divorce is expensive and i don't make any money really to get that situated and because of that im still technically married. I have never tried to make my bf be my babies daddy that is just wrong he worse up to it without me pushing. I've tried to get bd to get involved my bf has even offered to drop my bd off to the bd but theres always an excuse with him. He doesn't call and when i do he doesn't answer. He (bd) has another child with another and since then well I've tried. I can't him do something he doesn't want to. Yes i know if they agree then they can do as they please but its more of the bm says i want and my bf gives in which i get to see his daughter because she will go to every other weekend dad and he wants to be every weekend dad. I've always said that that you hate her you must still love her he just denies it and says he wants this more then that he's denied her 4 times for the sake of his daughter because he would be unhappy and miserable with her. I hope that cleared the confusing part. I know i'm not an easy person and i let my fear and insecurities rule me though it has a kernel of truth.