This is likely the 3rd Christmas that my DH will not see his kids. According to the CO, he’s suppose to have them from noon Christmas Day until Jan 2nd. I’m sure he will go and try to pick them up and document that he attempted visitation and find the house where BM and the kids are staying completely dark.

He sent their Christmas cards already, which he always sends registered mail. BM never bothers picking up anything he sends from the post office, so it really doesn’t matter what is in the envelope. But he has to document trying for the next court appearance.

This year the gift he included was a certificate to go on a 4 day snowboarding trip that listed all of the fun things they would do and has no expiration date. He likes to point out all the things that BM is depriving them of but if the kids actually open it, they’ll see it as a bribe and flaunting the money he has.

It doesn’t cost him much money, so it’s no big deal really. Hell would have to freeze over before his kids actually took him up on the offer. He got the idea from some other dads he communicates with through Facebook about parental alienation and they constantly encourage him to never give up and keep trying to provide tangible things to prove he’s been trying to have a relationship with his kids and BM is preventing it.

DH's life has improved so much since he finally was free of BM. BM’s life has imploded and she will never let go of her hatred towards him or let her kids have a relationship with him. There isn’t any Christmas card or gift that’s going to help them get over that.