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SD 15 said, "can we go see
One word = NO!
Giving the benefit of the doubt
I'm guessing a 15 year old doesn't grasp the major cost of your trip and associated traveling and visiting. Now that I re-read your post, I see she's asking about a separate, earlier trip. Just say no and forget about it.
Sometimes
People look for things to be upset about. I think that may be the case here. She is 15! This is typical teenager behavior skid or not. Say no and move on.
not true
Not "looking" for something to be upset about. Dont appreciate the insinuation.
My question is this: You can
My question is this: You can't stand being around these kids; why would you plan a (n expensive) vacation with them?
Obligation to the partner
Obligation to the partner/spouse most likely...and guilt
Agree
If this kid is upsetting you now. It's going to be ''''the trip from hell'''. Why waste your time ,and $ on a trip you will not enjoy. Either go with out her. Your allowed. You have my permission.
BF and BM tooked. alone trips before SD was born. You have the same right and privilege to alone trips. If it's wasn't for the alone trips once a year I would be divorced
Yea, I was going to suggest
Yea, I was going to suggest Mom and skid trip to the aunt's house over spring break and Mexico for AL and wife.
I'm also really surprised OP
I'm also really surprised OP wants to sign up for this Mexico trip.. I mean, the kids get on his nerves just hanging around the house.. does he get how terrible teens get on vacation? ugh... how everything is magnified by the stress of travel.. for everyone?
I agree the better idea would be a trip for his wife and her kids to see aunty.. and a trip for him and his DW together.. no kids to Mex.
3000%!
3000%!
Was OP guilted into this? The last big, exhausting, vacation we took with the then OSD15 and YSD13 was very annoying. I did not want them to come, especially OSD15. But it was to visit his family and I went along with it under specific rules. I would not pay for SD things unless I wanted to (and OSD noticed this but eff it, didn't care), didn't worry about their meals, didn't worry about correcting them ore anything. I hope OP just lets his SO do all that. I warned my DH of all that before we left, during the trip discussions with him.
Vacations are much more together time. Which is important to remember.