Holidays
Hi. We are going back to our previous state for Thanksgiving. We will see 18-year-old stepdaughter while we are there. Husband wants to fly same 18 year-old stepdaughter out to our house in our new state for Christmas break,. She came before and stayed for a week and said it was too long because my two little children were too loud for her. She also called my three-year-old a demon child and creep. Oh And she trashes our basement and is overall very disrespectful to me. I talked to my husband about this and he said I don't remember any of that. Of course he doesn't. She is perfect to him. Told him that's fine, but if she treats my children poorly, we will be going to stay at a hotel. He said oh your children? I said yes. You said that you want to fly "your daughter" out here so I will be protecting " my children" from her bad behavior if necessary. I need to look for a hotel now and book it to have it in case things go south over the time she is here for Christmas. Hopefully I will not need it and can cancel, but I don't know what else to do. If I wait until she is here and try to get a hotel, they will likely be booked up because of the Christmas holiday.
Look at airbnb and vrbo, too.
Look at airbnb and vrbo, too.
What is the possibility of SD
What is the possibility of SD not wanting to be at your house for Christmas (fingers crossed)? It is shameful that he is ok with an adult (especially) referring to your child as a demon. I'd tend to stand my ground in my house and tell DH to change her plane ticket and send her home early if she acts like an ass again. Hopefully, she won't come.
Book with a national chain of hotel
With a cancellation policie. Like 24 hours or 36 hours. And get set up. SD isn't going not miss the great gift grab. And ATM.
'Check Hilton hotels brand as Homewood suites. Has free breakfast. Pools. For the kids. Nite time resession and you can cancel either 5 days before it 24 hours before. If you are paying to stay in a hotel stay in one the kids will enjoy. Like having a pool to play around in. Making new friends
IHG has broad availability.
Candlewood Suites is my prefer for extended stay. HI Express has free breakfast an usually has a pool.
His selective memory is clearly gaslighting. Do not tolerate that crap from him.
As for the Demon Child comment. We have all experienced a Demon child or several at some point and know it when we see it. Take off the mom/bio parent goggles. Is the Skidult just being an asshole or is there some merit to the Demon Child comment?
I have a great idea.... I
I have a great idea.... I might suggest to your DH.. that his daughter might appreciate the CASH that the ticket would have cost.. since he would have just seen her at thanksgiving.. why not offer her that option.. young adults always need cash..lol.. and need seeing their families less... (and vice versa)
A. T.M.
A,T.M. A.T.M. that's all SD wants
Holidays are painful for me.
Holidays are painful for me. SS does not like me or my family, though he seems to like my nephews a little better than me (they're good at school and are athletic, the things SS admires). But his mom doesn't do much for the holidays and doesn't have much family. I just pray that it's either Thanksgiving or Christmas, but not both.
So mirror his behavior.
These types should suffer what the perpetrate on others. In an age appropriate manner. My baby brother was a biter. When he fit his first tooth he was like Nosferatu the vampire. About 4 teeth into his dentition he latched onto my dad's neck and drew blood after countless firm No!-s Dad had reached the enough point and bit him firmly on the hand.(no blood but with a bite mark). That was the last time he bit anyone. I had scars by then from his vampiric or zombie/cannibal feeding attempts on me. I was about 8. The little shit thought it was funny through he also did it when he was mad. I would never had done what dad did myself. My baby bro was my world. But it was something that had to be done.
So," latch on" and bring the mirroring pain.
I would.