Passing it along
Grading Period: Q3 Progress Report
School: X High School
Course GradeScore Missing Assignments
K Econ(1) A
J AP Studio Art(2) A
M Orchestra(5) C
A Expos Rd/Wrt 12(6) F
S Photo 1(8) C
This is me letting it go. I passed it to husband who is busy at work. Said "k". Informed him he is getting a letter, because every day absent since Jan 31.
Posting here. Thats it. No getting mad, just kicking into planning mode.
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Question: looking at these
Question: looking at these grades... how did she ever pass the more challenging courses in high school? Cs in photo and orchestra? How did she ever manage to pass her core subjects?
She isn't a stupid kid.. she
She isn't a stupid kid.. she is missing assignments.. I think the numbers in parenthesis are missing things she didn't turn in. It sounds like absences may also be playing into it.. orchestra would probably have a large part of the grade that depends on attending.
Not Stupid
Lazy, as Ive mentioned. Too many absences, and not working with teachers to make anything up. But plenty of time for friends. Back in the day I recall telling her how important doing well in school is, because the opportunities are so much better and numerous, and how the opportunities for a good life just slip away, and you probably remember what she did. She yelled at me. Yup. Lost her temper and yelled at me.
Im beyond caring for her interests. Just tired of having to protect myelf and stress over the potential for conflict.
Shes not passing English writing
She did well in some but not others.
I just think shes getting more and more involved in having fun with friends, and less involved with school stuff, and parents dont GAF.
Isnt this age about testing boundaries.
Of course the worried side of me hypothesizes that she has true mental health issues.
As a side note
These are wonderful grades compared to what Chef's ferals used to get! The never got any grsdes above a "D" in anything. If course they would routinely miss 3 school days out of 5.
But yes, still too involved.
Not stupid
Theres always hope for smart kid, but Im no longer wanting to support that smart kid.
Why are we discussing this
We disengaged. We don't care. DH has to deal with it, if he wants
No discussion
Last night after work, I didnt mention it. Skid did not show for her week with us. Didnt ask why, or what happened. Just kept it at the important stuff about our days and all that entails.
For the here and now, do discussion is needed because I do not control that.
Your husband said "k" because
Your husband said "k" because he doesn't care about his kid and nothing you do can ever make him. He cares about fishing and having fun.
I said "k"
I sent him grade reort and truancy letter notifications, he responded with "Im busy", and I dropped it all.
She did not come to our house for visitation, I did not ask what is up. There was no conversations had after work, when he got home either.
If you want to look at grades
If you want to look at grades, or what ever ..ok LOOK at them.
I would not disclose to dh that you have any knowledge though.
What you can do, is discuss your red line for skid when they reach adult hood. Such as NOPE skid is not moving in when bm's child support ends.
In my opinion, once kids reach age of majority---the tip toeing around and remaining mostly silent on issues is 100 percent, completely, over with.
In the mean time peek all you want, just do not tell dh what you saw.
JMO--start thinking of your red lines.
EXACTLY my message
Precisely my message. Its finally getting through (to me). Im prepared to give notice no more "tip toeing through the eggshell dancing" for me. Im not going to "couch" my words. Dont like what I have to say, too bad. Im not going to stress over threats and accustions. My silence will end, I will weigh in on things when appropriate.
In planning modality for when we discuss clearing out her stuff.