To end the two decade long extortion racket.  I will bet you if SD ever went on beaver's insurance, if she has it, you would never get the insurance card.  That's the way the hcgubm game is played.

I actually didn't wait until the CO was over to tell my DH's Ex she was a crappy mom.  She wanted to give me crap because I was communicating with the school (on my DH's behalf).. regarding some unexcused absence issues that were potentially going to hold my YSD back.  Since I had EOB's from the insurance CO.. I figured I could get some of them cleaned up and under the acceptable minimum.. this was the year we found out YSD had seizure disorder.. her mom call s me all mad that I was overstepping.. I told her maybe if she was a good mother.. no one else would have to do her work for her.  lol. ..it felt great.. and side benefit.. BM would never talk to me.. or even mention my name.. haha.

Money. Then the real life starts..  She upset that her good life is drying up.  Now she is going to have to work more..full time and do with less money...  and it's all your fault..  Your fault for not supporting Beaver the reast of her life.   You know the good boyfriend doesn't like to work. 

5.5 plus of sd's disappearing and ending contact with their dad and out of the blue eldest sd calls daddy demanding a reconnection. Repeatedly demoted us as "the new family" whilst hubbys own family like his dad, siblings nieces and nephews consider us "as family", reality kicked innfor the ex-heifer that all those manipulative narc moves had normally resulted in my husband falling desperately for them just to manage a relationship with his daughters but then reality kicked in for him over a decade ago that this wasn't healthy 

he knew putting his life on hold for his disrespectful daughters even though they had been brainwashed by biomum, even though they were doing biomums dirty work, was not healthy and hubby was a parent, he deserved to not be treated like crap after all he has done. So he let it be. Did exwife or sd's ever take responsibility for it and make amends?? Hell no!! In fact eldest sd had the audacity to tell daddy get over it, yes just get over the fact petty vindictive exwife called me a half naked whore, told the sd's and everyone who would hear that hubby was no longer muslim but a disbeliever and Christian. Any evidence of this? Nope.

everything she claimed would happen the complete opposite happened. Almost like god was on our side. Now biomum realised we got married and had 2 kids she still thought she could remotely control me and our lives.

3 visits in with sd's and i thought hang on, why am i being suckered into making myself available at all meets with sd's upon biomums orders to eldest sd who was like 22/23 or hubby would not be able to see them.

thanks to steptalkers who educated me how to navigate the typical hcgubm. Without any of you, our marriage wouldn't have survived. Hubby knew he had to put us first that putting skids first would result in a 2nd broken home with skids abandoning hubby. So we are 1 team.

it took a while but my husband sat the eldest sd down and told her very clearly our family hierarchy and that he never wanted her to utter biomum or affair stepdads name ever again. She sulked and been rude to her dad even 3.5 yrs on. Biomum realised her original tactics were not working and had to make sure hubby realised he had to focus on them. Convinced the eldest sd to repeatedly tell daddy to transfer property he bought post divorce with his money be transferred solely to skids 2 whom were adults and youngest 13 when we had 2 toddlers at the time. 
i told hubby if he started handing off property into skids name without anything for our 2 kids, I would be out the door.

such is his distrust for skids to be ethical and responsible should he die tomorrow, he withdrew a large chunk of retirement savings and bought a house in my country in my name so if he did die tomorrow, we'd have a roof over our heads and not have to deal with sd's and bat shit crazy exwife. 
 

that really sums it up when your own husband doesn't trust his own kids. Sd's have been bitter ever since finding out me and our 2 kids existed because hubby preferred spending time with us. If only they would be nicer people, they'd actually be pleasant to be around

office and get a replacement for a lost card. Then.... BM can F-off regarding the SS card.

As for giving BM a copy of the Health Insurance card... nope.  Force her hand.  You already said DH will give SD a card.  BM can F-off on the Health Insurance card as well.

I would make the next 241 days sheer hell on BM. 

Just for fun.