Dh had an epiphany after his daughter, 21, sent his crazy tempered sister after him via group text. He said he had chest pains and felt like he didn't care if he died, then a wierd sensation overtook him. He said he realized he had been too afraid to piss off his daughters, so he hadn't stood up to them like he should have. He decided to rewrite his rulebook about his kids. 

He called SD16 and told her she was wrong. She tried to argue and he told her he was the adult so he didn't need to explain himself to her. She called him a hypocrite, and he told her "No! You will not speak to me that way!" She tried to meddle in my estranged relationship with her sister 21, and he told her "that is not your business." When she said that I should apologize to SD21 and allow her into my home, because I was wrong to be upset with her spreading lies about me, he told her "No. She is an adult and you don't get to tell her what  to do. You are a child and this is not a democracy!" He told everyone that if they didn't treat us and eachother with respect in our home, he would escort them out of our home.

Oh my goodness! I have my husband back! All it took was a near death experience to make him see how awful things have been. We are both sick with the flu, so we are home sick together. I feel closer to him now than I ever have. I told him I was so proud of him for how he handled this. 

I have waited so long for this. His youngest SD is the worst right now. She is still convinced she is right. Oldest SD is still spreading lies about us, and his sister won't speak to him or me.