Found a way to block BM's phone number on both our phones

I recently discovered I can block any phone number I want on my phone. (I'm not too technologically backward. I think its a new service offered by my carrier. I couldn't do it before.) Ha ha.

BM has begun sending long winded texts to my husband at 8 pm, telling him what he owes for SD's college. Well, we know what we owe and its not as much as she is claiming. Its in writing, and signed by a judge - so why is this b*tch texting us when we are trying to relax at night? It caused a small argument because I told DH I would like for him to set boundaries and not speak to her or reply to texts from her after 5 pm, as she has been warned not to do that. He agreed to reply the next day and just say "I will look into it and take care of any issues on my end." BM is still trying to rile him up, though - with constant last minute reminders and threats about money.

All the SK's are over 18 and can call us directly, so there is no issue with communication, and no reason for BM to need to contact us at this point. We are not friends by any stretch.

Anyway, I grabbed my DH's phone and blocked her number. I want to see if he notices or cares that she has stopped harassing him. I am hoping this will lead to her not using the kiids as an excuse to cause him anxiety and threaten him. The kids are able to pick up a phone so let them say their peace themselves. Mommee can retire from her job as kiddie secretary and bully now.

Just wanted to share my secret glee.

BM blocked

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Good for you!

My DH told BM a long time ago that when child support was done, so were they and he would never have to speak to her, again. And, he hasn't.

I don't think she believed him. She did call him when SD33 was about 22 and DH told her that he had nothing to say to her. She hung up on him and has never called, again.

You are correct, there is no reason, the girls can speak for themselves.

This is awesome! I'm so close

This is awesome! I'm so close to being at this point. My twins graduate in a year. I've been trying to communicate less and less with my ex husband. He keeps texting about stuff the kids could tell me directly. They are almost 18!!

Anyhow when they graduate I'm going to try to set it up so they are in charge of the financials for college. Starting now I'm going to have them set up an Excel spreadsheet with the tuition and books cost etc for the programs. It will be simply math and expenses. Black and white. Our court order states we pay tuition and books and other related fees as outlined.

Then I hope to have the girls tell me the totals and I pay the college DIRECTLY. Anything other than tuition I'll pay the girls directly as needed for my portion which is also a calculation. My fingers are crossed that this all goes smoothly

I think it's awesome you blocked her. I think the whole point is that when they are adults going to college we shouldn't have to text our exes over very much at all (or at least I hope and pray). Do we need to text them at ALL even??? Lol.

Lately when my ex texts dumb

Lately when my ex texts dumb stuff I either don't reply or just say "thx" or "ok". He still hasn't got the hint... I might just outright tell him he can discuss with the girls or I can discuss with the girls as they are adults.

Thank God, we have always

Thank God, we have always kept a landline, so BM has never had DH's cell # to do all of that stupid texting.

Yes, it should be black and white/all business

I agree. There shouldn't be much communication after the kids are 18 and there is no need to communicate about them anymore because they are running their own lives. That's why it tickles me so much to do this, because I know the BM loves causing chaos, and has always used the kids as an excuse to do so.

Now she is put out to pasture, with no purpose. What ever shall she do? Oh yeah, she just got remarried last month, so she has a new victim to torture. LOL. Or she could get her own life.

That is great.. I am happy

That is great.. I am happy for you! I know how annoying it can be.

Thanks

Thanks! I am having a good chuckle about it today.

I bet it feels reallllllly

I bet it feels reallllllly good

I can't wait

I'm debating texting my ex today to tell him I want to handle small things like appts directly with our nearly 18 year olds today. Still mulling it over. Not sure how he'll take it. Either that or I keep saying just ok or nothing.

I wouldn't tell him, I'd just

I wouldn't tell him, I'd just do it and give him the appropriate information afterwards.

Agreed

Agreed. This is the plan we had too, but BM didn't want to stick to it. However, we made sure the courts knew we would pay either the school or the child directly for her college. Now I want to be done with BM and her BS. Ha ha.

Don't hope. Make proof a

Don't hope. Make proof a condition of the support. They provide grade reports or they pay. If they provide the proof the get another semester to perform. Keep that up, they keep the support.

Fail to pass every class for the semester, no support for the next. I would advise that the kid take out loans and if they provide the proof, pay the loan for that semester directly to the lender.

If the kid has not yet proven themselves to be trustworthy, on living expenses, pay a meal plan with the Uni, pay the Uni directly for the dorm.

Cash is risk. I would not expose myself to that risk if kid is iffy and if they are exposed to a toxic X.

Just my thoughts of course.

Funny thing about that...

Funny thing about that - she has a meal plan at her dorm. She said she won't use it because she likes fast food better. (Eye roll), so we told her she might want to get a job then, because fast food is expensive. LOL.

Msg AND Phone apps

FYI, not sure what kind of phone he has, but be sure to block from both the Phone and Messages apps... unless you wwre able to block from his Contacts app.

Android

Its an android phone, so you can do it from phone settings.

Voicemails may come through

Voicemails may come through but hopefully not or she doesn't! It just don't open them! Reason I know is I have android /Samsung and I get voicemails from spammers I've blocked and I delete them without listening.

Interesting

Interesting. I will have to test that and see if it will allow voicemails or not. I hope not.

Well played. Hopefully the

Well played. Hopefully the SKidults all have a copy of the CO and know that their father wil provide per the CO. Anything beyond that.... "Ask your mother."

BM will likely stroke out which is long ove due. She will also likely add to her cat collection since she will no longer have DH as an outlet for her drama and toxic manipulations.

Blocking is done by your phone

The useser manual should be on line to look up. Or find a 15 yo kid somewhere and they will do it for you for a slice of pizza. BM wants to keep relevant. Trying to keep control. Or has nothing going on in her life. So she wants to spread misery.

Kids are over 18 adults. DH need not answer BM text phone calls go to voice mail .
'Once he starts doing so things will get better. She is looking to fill in the time before the wedding and GK ,, where she will try to control life again.

'You have to be prepared, on losing SD, If she sides with hrr mother, and her nonsense.

That ship has sailed

That ship has sailed. I am fed up with all the SD's right now, and if they aren't smart enough to understand why at their ages, they can figure it out on their own. They have all had plenty of chances to be better human beings.

YESSS

I'm always here for a good BM blocking story! There is NO reason they should still be terrorizing you when the kids are adults! Good for you!

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Found a way to block BM's phone number on both our phones

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