There must have been something really strange in the air in June.  I just read someone's response to a post and realized that I have a relatable story.  Bear with me:  this is two stories in one.  

Something similar happened to me and my DH with my YSD around June of this year. My YSD decided to back stab me and say horrible things about me to my DH on the phone.  Name calling as well.  I was floored.  I haven't had any direct contact with her since Christmas 2019, before Covid.  Well, there was some contact because during Covid, I was the one buying and sending Christmas  and Birthday Gifts to her and the grandskids, but as usual I was not recognized for my part in that.  But then, this happened!

She was trying to pressure DH into changing his will and also asking him to put pressure on his father to change his will to include them as well.  I have never seen such a Will obsessed person in my entire life!  It's off the charts.  It was while she was making these demands, that she became abusive with him and said disparaging things about me.  She also told him that he was going to "burn in hell" for the way he was treating her and her sister in the will.  Then she flipped a switch and told him through her phony tears and whining voice that she just loves him and wants to have a relationship with him.  Then back to her demonic side, she told him that he was being "a smart ass" and "Do you think that I like tell you that you're a bad father???!!  I DON'T, but I have to!  I tell all of my friends about the relationship that I have with you and they all say it's awful!".   The entire conversation was just crazy, and no, she doesn't drink or do drugs.  This is just her at her finest!

Instead of shutting her down during her rant, he said, "...well, that's not nice....well, that's not true...." etc.  I guess I was hoping for a more forceful reaction from him.  Something like, "YSD, You need to apologize immediately.  If you ever talk to me or talk about my wife like that ever again, it will be the last time we ever speak!"  but that's not characteristic of him.  I also think that because she blindsided him with her verbal abuse, he was very unprepared with how to handle her.   She had done something similar to him in November of last year, and she involved OSD as well.  They tag team badgered him on a conference call.  It was hard to watch.  He called them again the next day, more mentally prepared and he did put them in their place, but this last one came out of the blue.

He's had one 30 minute conversation with YSD since.  That took place one week later and she spent 15 minutes telling him how broke she is, "I have no money..." over and over again, and the other 15 minutes telling him about this sometimes convenient pseudo illness that she brings up whenever she wants DH to be worried about her. She never once asked him how he was doing and he actually has health issues.    I don't know what to make of any of this, but we did document it in an email to our lawyer and we followed up with an appointment. 

As for her "disease"?  She uses this troubling story of having a disease as an attention grabber.  She started claiming to have "it" when she was in her late teens. Sometimes she'll bring it up, other times she doesn't.  It depends on the situation.  If she thinks that it might strengthen her request for sympathy and money, then it usually surfaces in her conversation with DH.  Neither he or I have reason to believe that she actually has the illness that she claims to have.

She once told us that she took a test and it turned out that she doesn't have it, but she had to justify her previous fictitious symptoms, so she downgraded it to something completely different.  She had a new boyfriend at the time, so I guess that appearing to be diseased would not make her look very enticing to him, so she decided that she was cured.  Then a few years later, she must have forgotten that she had told us about the downgrading because she started up with the whole thing again.  She once sent us an email asking us for money because she wanted to take her kids (step grandkids) to Disney World while she is still able to walk and see.  She was worried that she'd be in a wheel chair or blind before they would ever get to see it together.  That was 12 years ago.  She's still fine.  Completely asymptomatic of anything.  We didn't cough up the cash then, because we're retired and that's not money that we have lying around.  

As her 50th birthday is just around the corner, I am dreading the next time that contact is made.