Out of the mouthes of babes
Dd 6 came into the kitchen tonight and said 'mama why don't you love aj (ss) like you love me?
Whoa, er, can you give me some examples? (genuinely upset as I'd like to think I mask my feelings well and treat them the same at contact)
She says' well for a start you tell me off for being naughty but you don't tell him!!! ' eyeroll.
I'm like you're too smart kiddo, OK I do ignore him a little when he plays up, and I come down on you, but I'm your mummy, he has a different mummy, and I don't think she'd like it if I came down on him same? It's your daddy's job to tell him off or no and if he doesn't I do ignore him 
Otherwise, I do care about him darling, I do. I like and care about your brother honestly.
Floored, what else could n should I have said?
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Ah yeah I struggle ignoring
Ah yeah I struggle ignoring the the SK's behaviour around my DD. DH does parent them, but he's a bit more tolarent to their behaviour than I am. Super annoying.
You said exactly what needed to be said.
You have a brilliant young one. Now that you have started engaging her with the facts, keep it up. Also start engaging the Skid with the facts as well. Kids are smart, they need to understand the truth and facts.
In an age appropriate manner.
IMHO of course.
Compared to the multiple Skid/BK/Complex bio product model, our journey was simple. SS-29 was an only child in our blended marriage. I have no BKs though I did adopt SS at his request when he was 11. Our family started when his mom and I married the week before he turned 2yo. We met when he was 15mos old.
He is the eldest of 4 by 3 different baby mamas (all out of wedlock) in his SpermClan. So, our struggles were nearly entirely SpermClan related and not so much Skid related.
I do not envy any SParent with a more complicated SParent experience than mine. I have lived pretty much the Unicorn SParent journey.