Came here to post a quick update on the divorce.

I filed & paid my taxes tonight from my old TurboTax account. TurboTax alerted STBXH, who has not yet done his taxes, and he emailed me asking if that was me (yes) and if I filed joint or separate (separate, DUH), and wrote, "I know you are upset, but we have some unfinished business. Please contact me, so we can tie up these loose ends."

Not gonna take the bait. I took my wedding ring off last week after hanging up on him as STBX was once again angry & being a jerk (started out love-bombing but did a 180 when I wasn't having it). I also blocked him & his spawn off my phone. So I've had a week of blessed peace, serenity, and freedom from STBX. 

The week prior, we had to say goodbye to the last fur baby in our original pack, who was stbx's dog. So not only am I now free of living with stbx (he moved out in the Fall, hates where he lives, has SS22 living with him), now I no longer have his aging, needing help dog. Yes, I am going out of town tomorrow & don't need to have stbx come pick his dog up so I can go. FREEDOM!

In other news, guess who bought himself a VERY expensive sporting item? Something with two wheels this time, no motor. Used for riding in the mountains. This was a few months ago. While I was paying 100% of the vet bills & dog meds. I pretended I didn't know - one of stbx's friends told me. I didn't say anything because I didn't want the narc to project & rage at me. I literally just spent the past few months caring for his dog full time, tolerating stbx because that dog loved him plus stbx was in denial that the time was fast approaching and I knew if I had to put the dog down without stbx there, the rage & accusations of killing the dog would be severe. So I held it together & did what I could to keep it peaceful during intense love-bombing from the man I'd had served with divorce papers in the Fall.. Listened a lot, held my tongue.

Already planned my 1-word response to the email: "Separate"