I do not limit my ire to characterless women. If anything, I am far less tolerant for characterless men than characterless women.  Though the relative lack of men on STalk makes most of the conversation fodder BM or the DH's X related rather than XH related.  My comments on characterless DH's are voluminous. I am an equal opportunity detester of characterless people.

No, I am not a misogynist.  Far from it. I am extremely pro woman.  What I am is a realist/pragmatist and have no problem addressing behaviors and character issues. Which... have no gender relationship and are individual choices.

I am blessed to have amazing women in my life.  Mom, wife, aunt, niece, friends, etc....  All confident and brilliant women of character.

I do not slut shame. I call toxic idiots on their choices.  I hammer the Spermidiot and his man whore ways over, and over, and over again and have for years. I will continue to highlight the impact of his lack of character on his 4 all out of wedlock children by three different baby mamas and his penchant for perpetrating statutory rape on young girls. His man whore career has contributed significantly to the destruction of the lives of  three of his 4 children.  Parental character matters.  Just look at the crap so many SKids described in this community have experienced and turned out to have behavioral failures due to the examples they have witnessed from one, the other, or both of their bio parents.

I am an equal opportunity detester of lack of character.  It is a trigger for me because I lived the misery of choosing a cavern crotched adulterous whore as my first wife. I did not know it at the time.  But it is a choice I made.  I learned from that poor choice and I have avoided repeating that mistake. 

I applaud embracing one's sexuality in a healthy manner.  However, for those with children, how they do that matters and has implications far beyond their own lives.  Kids observe, are smart, and emulate the example of their parents.  Parading an endless line of lovers in front of children is a key characteristic of a failed parent.  I would premise that those who have the example of parents in a committed, passionate, and respectful adult relationship have far less baggage and struggle far less with their own relationships, behavioral issues, and life performance issues than those who have a serially partnered parent who is focused on instant gratification and what feels good at the moment.

So, yes, I call adulterous characterless POS people on their choices.  No kid should be saddled with a parent who sets that kind of example.

I celebrate people who explore their sexuality in a healthy way.  I certainly have throughout my life.  Not always with people who are life partner material.  We all learn. Fortunately those who don't learn and who saddle their children with the baggage of their crappy choices are a relative few.

If you take exception to my thoughts and comments, avoid posts under my name. 

It is pretty simple.

As for what I would do?  Add the facts of this BM's relatioship crap to the facts and smack her with them in court.

My Skid is important to me because initially his mom is important to me. I could have stayed out of raising him, I could have either ignored or facilitated the negative influence of the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool (the SpermClan) on my Skid.  I soon realized that my Skid is MY Skid, he is important to me because he is important to me even outside of the relationship his mom and I share and I wanted what was best for him.  Continuous and unregulated exposure to the man whore Spermidiot and his serially out of wedlock breeding bullshit is a negative influence on my SS and on his three younger half sibs by two other baby mamas.  His mom and I made mitigating as much of the toxic crap perpetrated by the Spermidiot and the SpermClan while modeling a passionate, healthy, respectful and committed adult relationships and family experience for SS as a juxtaposition to the toxic adulterous example from the SpermClan side of his family experience a focus in our adult life choices.  We put the Spermidiot in front of a judge as often as necessary to protect my SS from his crap.  His parade of flavor of the month partners received a lot of interest from the Judge and the post ruling Spermidiot ass chewing by the Judges was always satisfying.  A Judge is limited in what they can do, but Judges are people and can certainly give a characterless POS parent, man or woman, a piece of their mind.  Interestingly our Judges always waited until the end of the hearing to climb up the Spermidiot's ass after all of the friends and family members on both sides had been allowed back in the court room to hear the ruling and the Judge's ass chewing of the Spermidiot.  Their attorney always presented a motion for exclusion of witnesses from the courtroom to keep the facts from the Spermidiot's family, children, friends, etc.....  I found that every Judge we had did this same thing to be very interesting.  A couple of Judges applauded my bride for setting a strong example for her son and for not being defined by her past as a young single teen mom after they had chewed the Spermidiot's ass.

Interestingly, my SS is not a man whore.  If anything his sensitivity to adultery and characterless POS people has limited his relationships in adolescence, his teens, and now as an adult.  He tends to commit early, love hard, and is shaken to the core when his chosen partner proves themselves to be of deficient character.   He is maturing well, performing far beyond the entire history of the SpermClan, and will tolerate no bullshit from people he dates.  His progression of partners have grown more mature, of greater intellect, and ever improving character.  SS's adult relationship experiences have grown him into a confident partner who will not tolerate anything less from those he dates.  SS gives his mom and I,  my parents, and my brother and his wife crap for setting the relationship bar so high.  He thrived growing up within a framework of respectful loving adult relationships.  He will tolerate nothing less for himself.  He has standards.

The BM in this case has apparently not grown either sexually or as an adult.  Why would the caring quality parent and their mate abandon this Skid to the mother so deficient in character?

I wouldn't.