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luwh033's picture

Submitted by luwh033 on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 12:49am

Would you feel comfortable going with your new baby to your boyfriend’s ex’s house for their daughters birthday? Feel like it’s super awkward. Especially since our relationship is not in a good place right now. I’m on the fence. She is always nice but my boyfriend is talking about us going over there to hang out for a while. If I’m being honest I don’t exactly feel comfortable. I just had a baby confidence isn’t the highest our relationship is on the rocks. And I just don’t feel like being judged or dissected. Also just don't want anyone touching my baby. Of course he could just go but I hate the idea of him going there without me too. If we were in a good place I wouldn’t care at all but things have been pretty bad.

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notsurehowtodeal's picture

Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 1:39am

Don't do it if you feel uncomfortable. If you need an excuse, use COVID. No need to take a baby to a house full of people.

Your SO does not treat you right and you don't owe him anything. Let him go and use the time to work on an exit plan.

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Submitted by Winterglow on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 1:40am

Don't any of them understand that COVID can kill? Don't go. Stay at home and take care of your baby. Make your idiot bf self-isolate when he gets back.

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Submitted by tog redux on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 5:54am

This is why the US has such high rates. People don't care. OP, don't expose your baby to COVID. 

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Submitted by ESMOD on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 8:38am

Who thinks it's a good idea for multiple households to get together indoors?  that is seriously a stupid plan right now.  You have a baby.. you don't need to expose your child to others indoors.  

These joint birthday parties are stupid in normal times.. they are absolutely ridiculously stupid while such a large percent of the population is unvaccinated.

Don't go.. .and if your BF goes.. make him isolate in a hotel for 2 weeks before he is allowed home.

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Submitted by AgedOut on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 9:16am

If you are not comfortable, do not go. This is your baby's health, your mental happiness so no. He can go or you can start a new tradition of celebrating seperately. 

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Submitted by ndc on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 9:19am

Whether or not I felt comfortable, that would be a hard no.  Even before COVID I wouldn't take a new baby to a party. To do so during COVID would be ridiculously irresponsible. I'd tell BF I wouldn't go, and would suggest he quarantine away from me and baby if he chose to go to the party himself.

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Tue, 02/16/2021 - 9:48am

I never felt the need to hang out with my ex in order to celebrate my kids' birthdays. Your DH can celebrate the birthday separately from his ex. If he wants to, that is. I don't want to hang out with my SO's ex, and i don't want him to hang out with her either. That seems to be how you feel, too. Tell your DH. If he says "tough sh!t, you're just jealous and i'm going anyway!", he's a jerk and a bad partner. 

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Submitted by acef92 on Wed, 02/17/2021 - 10:05pm

I thinks is so uncomfortable going to your boyfriend's ex house, I would choose to do a separate celebration because I thinks is akward, more if you feel that way and he needs to understand. 

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Submitted by sleepymeg on Wed, 02/17/2021 - 10:49pm

I would feel uncomfortable going to my BF's ex's house regardless of the reason or circumstances.

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Submitted by yougotthis on Wed, 02/17/2021 - 11:36pm

That would be a hard no. Nope nope nope. No way would I want to hand out with my DH ex and no way I'd be brining my baby to a party during covid. I alone wouldn't even go to a birthday party during covid. Don't go.