How much would it have cost with insurance? Pay that amount. She'll likely take you to court over it, eventually, though. DH refused to pay a bill for glasses when BM went to some place out of network. She eventually brought it up in court when she went for a child support increase and they made him pay it.  She did always go in network after that, though! Thankfully, DH's CO said she paid the first $250 of any medical expense, so it was rare for DH to have to pay anything.

Nope, I sure would not pay her 200.00 for a test she could have gotten him for 10.00, or even free.

You already pay for insurance and co pays. I wouldn't pay another dime. If she drags him to court he can fight to have it ordered that the kid sees someone in network or she pays the difference.

It depends, I guess.  How easy would it have been to get a $10 test vs. a $200 test?  Did one require waiting in line for hours while the other did not? Was one much closer, or did only one fit into BM's schedule?

My skids can get low cost dental treatment through our state's CHIP program. But no dentists in our area take that insurance. BM refuses to take the skids to unfamiliar dentists in what she considers sketchy areas (and she's probably right about most of the areas). So DH just sucks it up and pays half the cost of BM's dentist of choice.  He's willing to do that because BM doesn't usually spend his money, and she thinks this is important enough that she (well, the Golden Goose) is also paying half.

So I'd look at the circumstances and decide if there was any good reason to get the non-insurance test, and act accordingly.

I wonder if you can modify the CO to include that covered providers have to be used except in an emergency, or DH isn't obligated to pay. These BMs. They must love having their exes pay the insurance, then not use it and hand the ex a big bill! I have always carried my kids on my insurance. It's a big chunk out of my paycheck and i'll be damned if that premium money goes to waste. 

I wouldn't pay it and since he is in court anyway - he needs to ask for insurance providers only unless she has written permission from Dad or a court. I would also send a insurance card via certified mail - so she can't claim an issue with the insurance.

Sounds like she is being spiteful & he shouldn't pay it until the court or his attorney tells him he has too (& they will unfortunately since the procedure was already done).

Don't pay her a penny.  She knew it was an out of network location and yet SHE initiated the service. She can pay for it.

I would not pay 1cent either. Let it go to court.

You did not mention whether or not the current order reflect's: MOM pays first 1200 (guess amount) of out of pocket expenses. There after bm and dh split costs in 1/2.  Parent MUST provide other parent bill of services within 30days of medical appointment OR will forfeit claim to seek payment from other parent.

Something like that ^^^^DH should do himself a huge favor and get words to that effect in his new order. Also, some bm's will always go out of network to devil their ex's.  SOooooo it might be good to add WHEN bm decides to unilaterally take child to out of network providers, BM will pay 80percent of out of pocket and dh will pay 20.

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And.... most COs are very clear that medical expenses not covered by insurance are split between BioParents.  I would tell BM to KMA if I was your DH and if she forced the issue to court, pay only half, which is hopefully clearly stopulated in the CO.

And.... most COs are very clear that medical expenses not covered by insurance are split between BioParents.  I would tell BM to KMA if I was your DH and if she forced the issue to court, pay only half, which is hopefully clearly stopulated in the CO.