It's over. He took SD home this morning after i voiced that i didnt think it was right to drive back mid week in our holiday top pick up SD because she doesn't want to stay all 4 nights but just 2. She has stayed with us for 4 nights before because she wanted to sleep extra so I felt it wouldn't be good for her to think she could get us travelling back to collect her half way through the break. Apparently I need to get a grip and he is happy to do it so that's that. Doesn't matter if it disrupts our holiday mid week. I think either deciding to do 4 nights at the coast or having to miss out would have been good for her and may make her less likely to fuss in future. But no i'm wrong. So he said he would cancel the holiday so none of the children could go and find somewere to live and i said ok. He then gathered SDs things and came up to say he was taking her home and checking into hotel until he can find his own place. I didnt even go down and say goodbye. Just let them go.

Also last night i made dinner and i always make salad with dinner and my partner always asks me to overload his plate with it as he is always trying to eat healthy. Anyway, i asked him to oversee what i was plating up for SD.( so i couldn't be blamed) I asked if she would have salad and he made out it was odd for me to make a salad to go with dinner. (It was hot dog and wedges, which i see as BBQ kind of food, so always do salad with it) I said we always have salad are you having some and he rejected it too saying "oh no not with hotdogs, that's just odd". I think he did this so it didn't look odd that he wasn't offering some to his daughter as he knew she would go into tantrum and i miss mummy and that would confirm my concerns what i have raised, that she is using i miss mummy as a way out of doing stuff she doesnt like. Pure manipulation and now he is manipulating the situation to enable her manipulating!! After that i was in the garden and i pronounced a word wrong ( instead of saying thief i said fieth by accident, i'm a suffolk girl and sometimes my dialect is a bit off) and he pretended he couldn't understand my sentence and kept saying what do you mean over and over again. Then he said "oh you mean thief, i couldnt understand you" all my family understood me. The word sounded like thief. It made me feel like i was completely thick. That doubled with being told i make him raise his voice was enough for me to shut down emotionally and let them walk. I'm pretty sure there is something narcissistic about both of them. SD said these sausages are better that mummys burnt ones. Last week she wouldnt eat my food. No shes willing to talk negative about her mums food which i didn't like. Where is your sense of loyalty to your BM. Never thought i would feel bad for BM! It feels like she is saying that to us to get on our side now. I wonder what she says to mum about my food. I think it's very off.