BM treats SO like a glorified babysitter
Anyone else get fuming at the fact that BM's seem to think that they can bark orders and demands at SO & expect to get what they want? Bearing in mind I myself worked 40 hours a week through the whole of lockdown, my husband runs his own business so stayed at home throughout with our daughter (full time obviously) and SKID 50% of the time (we dont usually have him 50% but as my husband was not working she demanded we had him more of the time). My husband and I are at work now, BM hasn't worked for 4 months due to COVID and wont be back at work until September might I add, but seems to think that we should be dropping everything at her demands to be a glorified babysitter and when SO refuses to, he gets called every obsenity and hes a **** Dad! This woman has no work ethic, no ambition and just wants to palm her child off constantly to go drinking with her mates, that's absolutely fine, but what isn't fine is that we actually care about our business and trying to make a good future for our kids and simply cannot be driving here there and everywhere at her demand, we have a court order in place which states the visitation days. I dont get what is so difficult to just adhere to that, why there has to be such nonsense and drama all of the time. The girl feeds off it. She loves to upload their text message conversations to social media, claiming that she is so amicable, but SO isn't. Surely people must see through this BS.
Just a thorn in SO's side, an absolute pest.
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He should block, ignore and
He should block, ignore and refuse to listen to her tirades.
This
This
He is the NCP and, as such, he doesn't even have to take the child on his time let alone on hers. Also remind him that if he doesn't engage she'll have nothing to post on social networks.
No he doesnt these days,
No he doesnt these days, whats bugging me is that she has messaged every single day at the moment either wanting a babysitter or more money!!!!!
So get him to send them
So get him to send them straight into a directory that is only for her ... or just not open her messages. Why is she asking for money?
He doesn't even respond to
He doesn't even respond to her these days however she has messaged him once, twice a day for the last 7 days, either wanting a babysitter or more money!!!!!!!
Well, you can't control her -
Well, you can't control her - but if he refuses to respond, she will likely stop asking. But he can't give in, even once, or she will only learn that pestering him eventually gets what she wants.
If she isn't working, why is
If she isn't working, why is she asking for a babysitter or more money (I assume for a babysitter?)? So she can "go out"?
Very good point, hes spent so
Very good point, hes spent so long arguing with this pest that he no longer cares to. I must say it's a lot more freeing of our headspace by ignoring her. I just needed a vent that she is just a total pest and does not leave him alone! She's just a money grabbing waste of oxygen
Yes, ignoring does wonders -
Yes, ignoring does wonders - and it also pisses her off mightily, which is a bonus.
She will likely give up eventually if he keeps ignoring.
We can tell it'sdoing in her
We can tell it'sdoing in her head in that he's ignoring her, because she is trying ever so desperately to get a bite out of him, i've definitely had more satisfaction over him ignoring her than i ever have done with him arguing with her! Just gives her the amunition she always wants.
Yep, she wants his attention
Yep, she wants his attention and a reaction from him, don't give it to her.
My SS once told DH it drives BM crazy when he ignores her, lol.
Lol, that's brilliant, we
Lol, that's brilliant, we know it definitely drives her mad, it's crazy why we didn't just ignore her ages ago really.
Ah yes, shutting her down and
Ah yes, shutting her down and keeping to the topic of skids only drives them mad too. That's when you have to absolutely talk to BM. Hanging up on them is a good one too.
I bet it is lol. For now
I bet it is lol. For now though, ignoring her is absolutely 100% satisfying