Dear Valued Users,
It's with a heavy heart that we announce the permanent closure of StepTalk.org on August 31st, 2025.
This decision wasn't an easy one. For over twenty years, StepTalk has been a source of support for stepparents around the world! However, over the years, the costs associated with maintaining and upgrading the site to remain secure, meet current standards and maintain availability have become unsustainable.
We are incredibly grateful for your support, contributions and the community you've helped us build. Your engagement has made StepTalk.org a special place and we cherish the memories and connections made here.
We would especially like to thank Aniki for volunteering to be a moderator and for caring so much.
Thank you for being a part of our journey and we wish you all the best.
Sincerely,
Dawn and The StepTalk Team
Comments
Don't get married.
Don't get married.
n/m you already have a kid with him. Leave all the parenting to him. Read a book about boundaries, his kids and his family are his responsibility.
Tips
So when I first came here I thought disengaging meant shutting down everything involving the steps. That isn't always the case
You and only you control your disengaging. You can simply chose to not parent or discipline when they are around . You can take your bio elsewhere when they are over. You can ask your spouse to do things for his kid you'd normal do.
The possibilities are endless. But it's important you are in control and do what makes sense to your situation and you.
For me this meant :
- pointing things out to DH to tell the kids ( stop leaving cherry stems on the table, don't leave clothes on the bathroom for etc.)
- not discipling unless I absolutely needed to ( I had to yell at SD7 to stop making annoying loud noises when I had a headache and DH stayed quiet )
- allowing kids on trips out I invited them to only. I don't care if SD wants to go to the gas station with me . If I don't want her to go I don't let her. But I will plan trips out with her to the mall etc.
Be your own guide and follow your own rules. If your DH asks you can either explain or let him do the math.