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So, sd has been talking crap to me about dh. Usually i defend him and try to remind her of how things ACTUALLY happened. She's now started talking crap to my dd about DH and even last night called dd to tell her that BM showed all the texts between her(BM) and DH. I'm not sure which texts she is showing sd because ive seen the texts between BM and DH from DH's phone about all the things that sd is talking about and it doesn't add up.
Also all sd ever talks to dh about is money, how much he's going to give her and how much he "owes" her, and how she wants more. Now apparently she's taking about it with BM and BM doesn't think it's fair that sd isn't getting more money from DH and she is not being treated fairly. B****! DH isn't even making money right now but SD still gets $500 every single month! We may have to skimp on groceries, i may bre wearing holey undies, my bras may be BARELY holding my girls up, but SD still gets $500 every single month. And SD and BM still complain that he owed her more money. (Child support is $500/month)
SD's age
How old is SD?
15
why does child support go to
why does child support go to sd and not her mother?
Sorry if i was unclear.
Sorry if i was unclear. Child support is given to the mother FOR SD. But DH also gives sd sometimes for grades $5 doour A's, $3 for B's, as a "hey this year sucked, you want $50 to go spend at the store" due to the current pandemic, Birthday money, Christmas money, etc.
The good news
The good news is that SD is so transparent. Now you know greed is her motivation. I'd warn DD about SD (she probably already knows), suggest that she not believe anything and ask her to not overshare. I'd discuss with DH and firm up boundaries. I wouldn't discuss money with SD at all. I'd also hide checkbooks or any financial info during SD's visits. Your DH is paying his CS, he is doing the right thing. BM wants more money? Thats so sad, people in hell want ice water, too.
I do have to say I have a similar SD, now 58. This won't end. You will always be watching your back financially with her.
Exactly. She is very
Exactly. She is very transparent, but DH just can't see through her. He literally just gave in to what she wants.
My dd knows better than to believe sd. She was like. "Yeah, i heard yalls conversation, i know you didn't even tell her ____, but it really hurts my feelings that she said that." I just thanked her for not turning it into a fight, and just telling her that she had to go.
From here on out, when she starts reliably crap about DH I'm just going to tell her she can either stop or she can leave the room. Im not even going to play into her crap. She is very manipulative and just like her mom she tries to turn people against each other.
I know exactly what ypu mean
My SD is like thst, too. Likes to stir things up with people. It's so destructive. My DH is like that, too, really has trouble seeing the negativity. You will have to watch your back. I hope she's not a mini-wife.
Im hoping that sd just writes
Im hoping that sd just writes us off when she's 18 and never looks back. We'd be so much better off without her.
Can your husband request a
Can your husband request a review of child support amount in light of him being unemployed?
Since bre is self employed he
Since bre is self employed he doesn't have paychecks dio they go by taxes. And he didn't file taxes for last year yet, he filed an extension. Soooo they'l go off 2 years taxes. He worked a lot that year... he's afraid they'll raise taxes. Texas courts hate men.
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Is dd your daughter, how old are they? I would not tolerate some poison teen filling my child's head full of hate. Give her 1 warning then they both go and do their visits elsewhere.
DD and SD are both 15. DH is
DD and SD are both 15. DH is not my daughter's father. But she loves him and respects him. She's old enough to form her own opinions. But it still hurts her feelings when sd talks so negatively about DH.