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Jcksjj's picture

So DH decided to look the other way like usual on the weird internet searches and didn't even bother checking the history after she sat on YouTube all day yesterday. So I did. Now there's searches such as "where to hide bodies" and videos watched like "my teacher got me pregnant." That's normal for a nearly 9 year old, right?

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tog redux's picture

WHAT?

Honestly, you should considering leaving before this child does something to get you guys in trouble with CPS.

Jcksjj's picture

I know. Im stuck on the fact that my younger 2 would be with her without me there sometimes if I split up with DH and they're still too young to say or do anything if she tries something. But the older she gets the more I'm convinced that she's just trouble.

Jcksjj's picture

Idk. I just think that she's always going to cause alot of trouble for the people around her. Even in first grade alot of her classmates had learned to stay away from her because she would start things and then go pretend to be the victim to the teacher.

SubstituteMommy's picture

This is SD9! She could never keep a friend past one school year. It's like they put up with her when they shared a class, and the next school year, they avoided her like the plague and warned others not to be friends with her. This started in kindergarten!

ITB2012's picture

No child should be looking up stuff like that and no child should have full internet access. Take screen shots. 
 

Also, look into Qustodio. You could set it up and manage it without your DH having any knowledge. 

Jcksjj's picture

This was actually only youtube with parental controls on - apparently they don't work that well. I'll look into that, thanks. 

Survivingstephell's picture

I think you are going to have to be covertly proactive in protecting your home, yourself and kids from her.  Do what you must. 

Survivingstephell's picture

She is nine so you can have a lot of control on the electronics in your life. Total control of internet useage is yours to have, not hers. Redirect her into other activities or total boredom.  Nanny cams.  Chores, keep her busy and out of trouble.   Be prepared for fight with DH and decide what hill is yours to die on.  You have little ones so SD role modeling bad behavior should not be acceptable or tolerated.  Parallel parenting.  Just a few of the top of my head.  

SubstituteMommy's picture

What a freak! SD9 has been caught searching and watching unsavory things online as well. There's something not right about her, and it sounds like yours falls in the same category. I read your comment above that says that she will always be trouble, and that's exactly how I feel! That's why I have no intention of continuing to live with SD full-time once she reaches her teens. My SO and I will need to part ways or find a way to be together, but live separately. All signs point to SD being a teenage nightmare and, if I'm right, I refuse to subject myself or my children (especially my children) to that non-sense. No way!

Jcksjj's picture

I can relate. Kid is just weird and I find it odd that a 9 year old girl is interested in violent things also.

SubstituteMommy's picture

SD9 is interested in violent and sexual things. I am sure that she has psychological issues. Both of her grandmothers, her aunt, and her BM take prescription medication for mental disorders.

ESMOD's picture

can't you institute a parental browser on the computer that would limit the stuff a 9 yo can see?  I mean.. your dh wouldn't have to monitor her activity..

 

Jcksjj's picture

This was with parental controls on - some things still slip through. Idk why she's searching for weird things either - like peeing kidney stones and chimp ripping off people's faces. Alot of the times nothing comes up inappropriate (sometimes it does) but shes still trying to find it.