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Littlemama4's picture

What are you guys' th oh lights on visitation  during this time?

Littlemama4's picture

Dear gosh that's awful, 

 

What are your views on visitation during this pandemic? I say not to send the children bc I have my 88 year old grandmother. My dh thinks that sending ss10 to his mother's this weekend is a good idea. I don't. I dont know who all they've been around. And I'm just scared to risk it. Thoughts? 

Swim_Mom's picture

Either don't send him to BM's or...better yet send him and he does not return until we are post-coronavirus!

I would NOT risk going back and forth. Nobody enters my house right now; it is just the 5 of us. No SS.

Rags's picture

I would not recommend either the SKid visiting your home, the home where your 88yo GM lives, or sending the Skid to MILs who may be elderly herself.

BM needs to step up and take care of the Skid until this whole thing passes.  Visitation is not worth the risk to anyone's life or health.

IMHO of course.

Littlemama4's picture

Dh stated ....I trust Bm not to take him anywhere. Uh that's not the point right? My grandmother's immune system couldn't  handle this, she gets a cold and it lasts 2 weeks. Dh doesnt want ss  to stay at BM's bc he has school work and dh knows she wont make ss  complete it. (We're in wv and the teachers are collecting work to be graded via email and such.) Thanks for your input. Didnt want to feel like I was over reacting. 

SM12's picture

I keep hoping that DH will telL DH to stay as BMs but he won't.  He may ask YSS if he wants to come, which he always wants to.   I also fear what BM is letting YSS do while at her house.  She has been known to pawn YSS off at a

friends house for days on her time.   And he is a teen so I doubt he is showering let alone washing his hands.  As far as I know BM is off work and her SO is working from home.   I work from home as well but DH has comtact with the public.   Honestly I wish he would stay at BMs and eat all her food and make messes there.  Maybe BM will get some brains and keep YSS since it would be more likely DH to contaminate us then the rest of us. 

CLove's picture

Thankfully Toxic Troll is keeping Munchkin SD13...because we are still working and may be carriers. Its just safer all around.

Littlemama4's picture

That's my fear, I'm a carrier and have brought virus' home to my grandmother before. But dh's ex is not the brightest crayon in the box if you know what I mean. She centers everything around herself and what she wants. Her little mind has a hard time comprehending what being a carrier means, dh had to break it down to her, sad that my dd7 can grasp that concept and she cant. It's just so selfish. 

strugglingSM's picture

I raised the issue with DH about not having SSs come this weekend, because a) we know SSs have been out and about this week and b) we know that BM has gone on several weekend trips away in the last couple of weeks. 

DH's reply, "I can't tell my kids not to come!" I told him that in that case, I would be staying in our room the entire time. That Skids can only use the bathroom closest to their rooms, the guest bathroom is off limits, and that he would have to disinfenct after they left. He might also need to self-quarantine in the guest room after they leave if he insists on sitting near them, touching things they touch, sharing food, etc. 

Rags's picture

Perfect!  I love it.

Well played.

Thumper's picture

Oh no no noooooooooooooooo,

Please stand your ground .

Is bm awful? Maybe she is pushing it. Puts her in the knuckle head status too then.

Thumper's picture

Anyone who is INSISTING on exchanging a kid during a world wide pandemic is a knuckle head.

Insisting is different than, hey What do think? Bitching UP a  storm about the court order...equals huge knuckle head. I would imagine there are plenty of custodials having a fit ncp wont pick UP eow, schools closed and so is everything else.

JMO----

Hey, some courts think face time is a great way for ncp  to spend quality time with kids (BARF)  so, face time. If it is pushed for the goose, then push it for that gander. LOL