We moved up North and my SD lives in the South ( lots of states away). I miss talking to her but she doesn't really like talking on the phone whe we are on the phone she mostly plays on her video console and  thats it. The BM doesn't respond to my husbands texts or mine, but when she needed to talk to right away I called her back. I do not get the same treatment my husband is over it and doesn't put effort into and is tired of doing this for the past 9 + years with the BM.  My husband and I have kids together and they miss there sister but they don't really talk about her anymore and sad to say but there used to the BM  playing these games as well and there only 7 and under. BM said since we live so far away we can have SD the whole summber break from May-August.  We are so excited! But now she isnt responding to when she wants to set up a appointment for a mediator or give us her birth certificate  so we can set up the plane trip up here. I tried texting her like hey when do you want to see up a appointment when is a good time, so we can get this all ready for this summer?  Her thing is she wants to first get a mediatior and a new parenting plan together before the Summer, which is all fine with us but May is coming up soon and these things take time. So what do we do?  On one end we are just done with her games and  just over it but on the other we know this is not right for her to be doing us this way.  How does my husband feel about all this? His response is I got to pay attention and focus on who I have a say so about and not  waste my energy on her BS games because I can never fight it anyway ( he makes to much to get free lawyers etc. no we are not rich) We did one time get a lawyer for $3,000 this didnt solve anything at all we got a new parenting plan yes but did she still do whatever she wanted YES!!!  People can say go to court tempt of court that cost money.  Phone calls every night like the Court order says hahaah! That is a joke, I even kept track for 2 months on a calendar when we got a call and when we didnt that was a lot of work let me tell you. I don't want to keep track of her BS games this should be my husbands job but he doesnt want to do it, ( his reasoning behind it is its a waste of his time we cant afford a laywer and she still will do whatever she wants).  I used to since we moved up North almost a year ago want to talk to my SD once every 2 weeks or so to see how shes doing but now its like we never get updates from BM on any appointsments never did in the first place, nothing about what she is into, how schooling is going etc. my husband doesn't know his own child because of this women. I feel like I'm spoon feeding my husband to do something about this issue but I have given up and I myself have gotten to the same state as my husband I need focus on the kids I do have and the kids I can have a daily impact on. Pleases no mean judgement. I want to do something some times and other days its like this horse has been beaten down so many times by the BM that she just gives in,