DH is pouty because I wont gush over skid25
DH has come a long way with steps but sometimes he takes steps backwards.
Skid25 is a guitarist and lead singer in a band him and his friends started. They write their own music, according to skid he writes all the music. Hr never gives much or any credit to his band mates for anything. Typical NPD behavior.
This week (on Friday) they released their first single and video. A song that I have heard them play 100s of times, it was changed a little , probably under the guidence of the music producer.
Of course DH is all thrilled and proud, which as a parent he should be.
DH asked me to share the link on my FB so more ppl see the video and hear the song. I didn't want to post it on my FB, I dont have anything about skid on my FB. But i did for DH and decided not to burst his bubble and say anything and in a couple of weeks I will delete the post.
I watched the video that Firday and listen to the produced version of the song and told DH that they did good. Didn't make a huge deal of it but I did say something positive. Which after all the shit that I have put up with from skid is as much as i could do.
Today we are in the car driving to Costco and he puts skid's song on. That's fine. I didn't say anything. But as we park he tells me how hurt he is that I haven't said a thing about the song.
I told him I did on Friday and I even posted it on FB when I didn't even want it on my page, since skid treats me so poorly.
Then DH said he didn't realize I said something on Friday and admitted that he might of been wrapped up and didn't hear me.
Skid is a talented musician and there I'd no denying that, just like he is an a$$hole and there is no denying that. But I'm not going to we all gushing over his accomplishments or thinking he is a rock God.
Now DH was been cold and pouty for the last 5+ hours, which pisses me off even more.
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Is he living vicariously
Is he living vicariously through his son or something? Why would he be that hurt when he thought you didnt say anything?
Side note - when I was in college this guy that was into me told me that he had recently been diagnosed with NPD and was all teary and wanted me to feel bad for him about it. I had never heard of it before but even then I was like uh I dont think that's something that's going to help you get girls. Anyway, he added me maybe a few years ago in Facebook and apparently is also a "rock god" in a mildly successful band. I was assuming he re added me so that I could see his success and all I missed out on when I turned him down years ago. He was SOOO irate when I did. Sounds awfully similar to SS, huh?
Exactly
he's living vicariously through his "rock star," fantasizing that it's him or "chip off the old block."
I sympathise with you. I had
I sympathise with you. I had a similar situation in that SD23 produced a short (10 mins or so) film a couple of years ago and to hear DH you'd think she'd suddenly become Martin Scorsese. I didn't like the film much, I just didn't think it was very good, and there was masses of the f bomb in it. Any achievement of the SKIDs is supposed to wipe out the many years of bad behaviour towards me and I'm supposed to gush? I don't think so.
Reminds me
of this:
https://youtu.be/xslyoK9uobE
Pouty DH = you going to take
Pouty DH = you going to take a two hour bath with music and beverage of your choice. Then get out and binge watch something. Ignore the man baby. Mantrums are only fun if they have an audience.
Your DH sounds a bit
Your DH sounds a bit narcissistic himself - maybe the apple didn't fall far from the tree? Expecting you to be endlessly enthralled with his Mini Me, even when he has treated you so poorly? You would think by now he'd get it.
These daddees do my head in
I can relate, and you have my sympathy. Back before SD ran off to live with BM out of state after she stole our money she was in singing lessons for years. I naively assumed she must have some talent as the lessons were not cheap at all. We were all invited to her end of year concert where she sang a solo. My goodness, what a trainwreck. I was embarrassed for her as the sounds that came out of her mouth could never be described as singing. She sounded like my cat giving birth. My ds5 at the time (who loved his "big sis" before she showed her true colours) whispered to me that it was hurting his ears!
The worst part is my DH was so blindly proud and kept repeating over and over how good SD was. I guess he kept saying it becuase I wasn't responding. I didn't want to lie and say she was good when it was like listening to fingernails down a chalkboard (and from the giggling and looks of the other audience members faces they seem to have agreed) so I just remained silent and changed the subject until he stopped. I am still amazed to this day how he could have possibly thought SD had any talent. And this is the same man who will tell my DD to stop singing anytime she starts because she sounds so bad.
I'm glad your skid at least has some talent, but your DH needs to knock it with his expectations that you should be his cheerleader after the way he has treated you.
I make the same face no
I make the same face no matter what my DH says about SD's glorious achievements. It's the same face I make when I try a dish: eyebrows up, a frown/smile and nod. Basically the face you make when you want to say "not bad." So far it's been enough.
My DH is a local musician.
My DH is a local musician. Most of the local bands that have been together for a bit have recorded songs/CDs. It's just not special given relatively easy access to decent recording equipment and talent.
That's not to say his son isn't talented--he might very well be. But he's comepting with THOUSANDS of local bands, all with dreams of the big stage. Nothing wrong with having that dream. But very, very few earn enough to even make a living at it, and even fewer ever have any degree of notoriety.
I hope SS and DH are grounded in the reality of life in the music industry.
A common joke: A successful band drives 5 hours in a $5000 car hauling $50,000 of equipment to make $50. It's pretty close to the truth.