I don't really have one frustration. I mean BM for sure has been a focus of my vents but also my living situtation and SO's inability to provide like he should becuase of his "pride".

I joined ST because of DH, his lack of boundaries with BM and his wimpiness and inability to do the difficult things and have the difficult conversations, whether with BM or the skids.  I've never had big problems with the skids, and while BM is an annoyance at times, compared to most BMs I read about here, she's a winner.  DH is much better at boundaries, but he's still a wimp.

I joined because of myself, honestly. I was drowning in anger and resentment about my situation, and I couldn't puf my finger on it or explain why...but I felt close to the edge. My stepkids were fine. My DH was deeply in live with me. And I felt nothing like myself any more. 
 

Coming on this sight helped me understand what I was going through and helped me explain it to my DH, too.

hubby made executive plans with his kids from exwife expecting me and my 2 toddlers be present without consulting us. He’d arrange plans for weeks with his kids and tell me last minute like the day before.

eventually hubby and me and my toddlers turned into chauffeurs and servants for skids, they treated us like shit, sd’s answered me back and told me they would do whatever with my kids. Bio mum demanded i be present at meets with her kids or hubby wasn’t allowed to see them. I have never met bio mum ever in my life

i started asking myself surely this shit isn’t normal and i deserve better. I stood up for myself more and hubby at first played innocent victim and refused to gett his kids in line until hubby knew he had no choice. I’ve reminded him since his daughters act as disrespectful bitches who want nothing to do with us and same as ss, we should not waste our time with them. Like why waste an enjoyable family day by them ruining it. I’d rather spend it with people who are pleasant and skids are far from it. Its been about 16-17 months since i saw sd’s and years since ss even talked to me and he lives in same home as me and hubby when away from university during breaks... that alone reinforces i and my kids should not be forced to participate in family events with them. If we are out at dinner and its ss21 birthday, staff at restaurant will sing happy birthday, i just sit in silence and look somewhere else or attend to my toddlers..

For me, mostly it's BM. She's juvenile, petty, vindictive, and always manages to convince everyone she's the victim. She has an unquenchable rage toward my DH that has not cooled, only inflamed over the time I've known him. 

DH doesn't help matters, however. When I first met him, he did whatever BM wanted. She was terrible to him even back then, but he capitulated to her, probably much like he did when they were married. 

He is also terrible about setting boundaries with his family and never told them how terrible BM was, so they, too have become a big problem for me. Almost as big for me, because for the most part, I can avoid interacting with BM. I cannot totally avoid DH's family. 

I still maintain however, that if BM did not have "borderline tendencies", things would be so much better with DH and with his family. She is the center of this dysfunctional universe. 

For me it was BM, which then influenced SS. DH is/was a good parent and SS and I got along great from day one. But BM's endless alienation tactics and the stress they caused made my life miserable - that only changed once SS was completely PAS'd out. Then we had peace. Now we are 11 months away from total freedom from BM (waiting for her to find something to file court papers about for one last hurrah).

Like another poster, I found this site after searching things about SD's behavior, etc. 

My main reason is still primarily SD, but this site has also got me thinking about DH's parenting style. I know him (and most definitely BM) are to blame for SD's ways, but since I've been in SD's life, I can tell that she's got a lot of things she needs to work through, which may take a while or never happen. Hopefully as she gets older and (hopefully matures).

SD's older siblings (from DH's first marriage) have come along and we have a much better relationship. But, they are older and have decent heads on their shoulders. There are still some things, but they stem from their BM's side of the family (she's a trip too, but in a different way than SD13's BM) and they try to handle it the best they can. 

We all know that I am here because of BM. This past year has been a lot of me dealing with anger towards SS15 too. 

This site has helped me realize that when we do finally stop fighting, it will be ok. SS may come around one day or me may not. We did everything we could. It isn't our fault. It took a lot for me to realize that we have done all we can and it will be ok to let go when we do decide to do it.

I am here mainly because of my DH and his god awful head in the sand guilty Disney parenting.....I fully realize that he is soley responsible for 90% of all of our blended family issues involving him, his kids, his family and BM.

Secondly, I am here to complain about my Skids and how they act because of my Dh's crappy parenting.

Thirdly, I guess BM. I think she is a disgusting fall down drunk.....but the only reason she causes us issues is because my DH allows her to. So I don't even blame her and she is at the very bottom of the list of things that are wrong in my life......

I joined due to a frustrating point in steplife history for me.  It had to do with my YSD and my DH ironically.. since the BM and my OSD are actually the ones that made my stepjourney most unpleasant.

It was really at the root of it a DH issue.  I think it's difficult for our spouses to truly balance their kids and their spouses.