I have an off topic situation that I could use some objective opinions! 
 

I work with a lady that we are casual friends. We have gone to the movies a couple of times in a group of three or so. We are friendly. When we go to the movie, it's always been her choice of what movie we are seeing with a promise that "next time", we will see the movie others want to see.  Never happens.  Also, at work, we have a small cabinet of snack that are available to us at no charge and we usually will choose a granola bar or candy bar and go on about our business. This gal would come to our office from the facility where she works and would gather up about four or five things and take back with her. Imagine her joy when she discovered one girl kept soft drinks in her own mini fridge. She always helped herself to one of those when she went by the girl's office. 
 

She has asked me to accompany her to the emergency room when she had a cold or whatever. One day i made a two hour road trip with her to drop her daughter's dog back off at her house. Took up my ENTIRE afternoon. 
 

The most recent mess started when she fell down the stairs at her daughter's apartment complex and hurt her knee. She had also fallen on this same knee at work. So a doctor recommends surgery to repair the new damage. First thing, she tells me then tells me NOT to tell anyone at work that she has to have surgery. I was NOT going to cover for her. Ever. I guess she eventually told her boss because she's off work now until Feb 2020. 
 

The Monday before Thanksgiving, she goes in for surgery. A few of us at work were checking on her during the day as coworkers or friends would. I got off work and went to dinner with friends. She called and i called her back. She let me know (through tears) that she was in such bad pain that she was at the ER and hadn't even gone home after the surgery. I said I would stop by and check on her.
 

When I get there, she says "I can't  go up the steps at my apartment. I have to go home with you!"  
 

i was stunned! I couldn't take this woman to my home! First of all, I have nothing but two twin beds in my kids' rooms. There are steps to get into my home too! Her daughter was there and I guess wanted to come stay at my home, as well. It's the week of Thanksgiving!!!! I can't take someone into my home to convalesce from surgery at my expense and spend time with MY family. It was all just insane. I called another friend from work and told them i had no choice but to put her in a hotel to keep her from insisting that she comes home with me. He and his wife split THREE days in the hotel because she can't go up the stairs at her apartment. 
 

All of a sudden, her lack of planning became all of our problems. To finish off this lengthy crazy ass mess - she then sent texts asking for volunteers to help her move to a downstairs apartment that holiday weekend. I know my buddies didn't do it. Next, she started texting a bunch of us saying she missed our cooking. We could feel free to bring her home cooked food. Or she would text she was bored. 
 

i just stopped replying anything as did others. Then she sent me a message saying she had money to pay me back for part of the hotel. And she meant she missed being able to cook. And on and on. Then she called me in the middle of a work morning to ask if we were ok in our friendship. I begged off due to being in the middle of some chaos at work. 
 

I'm pretty much done with this gal. She seems to be more than willing to take advantage of kindness when it suits her. My mother disagrees with me and says if I don't help, it shows I'm hard hearted.

Would you agree with that? I think it's just setting a boundary.