She totally shot herself in the foot and it was kinda glorious, not gonna lie.

Week on week off has been the norm for a little while now. BM can't seem to handle it... oh well.

SS hasn't been doing well in school... he's been extremely disruptive... hasn't been listening...has been refusing to do seat work... and doing severe things like hitting other kids, even going as far as choking one kid... hands around the neck strangling type choking. 

Needless to say, the school has called several meetings lately to discuss.

Turns out...ss's behaviours are much much worse the weeks he's at his mom's and not as bad when he's with us.

My husband and I have a joint email address, which we both use for appointments, important information, and communication with the school. Main purpose for which is to identify that BOTH of us have access and respond... and since dh works construction, it's easier for me to access...call him to give details... get his response then I type in and respond.

Well... given all the issues at school, I guess the school held a meeting Friday about ss and how he was now a "student of concern"... meeting was with the school social worker.... they emailed us to set an appointment for this week to meet and discuss. Id responded that we'd discuss and get back to them Monday with a proposed time.

I guess they mentioned to BM that they had met with my DH and I, and that it would be great if she could get on the same page as the rest of us in terms of how we all handle ss.... so Monday morning 7am BM calls dh and is screaming about how I have no business communicating with the school and how I'm making things worse.

DH tries to figure out from her HOW exactly I'm making things worse... she says that she got a talking to from the school social worker and that she's the mom, I need to not be involved.

Dh hung up on her... and we let the school know immediately about the call and that we were now both available at any time that day. They set the meeting for 11am so we sat around for a while then went to the school.

Off we go...and all in all the meeting was good. Sad, but productive. The school mentioned that it seems dh and I are doing what we can with ss to help him catch up... and that they didn't seem to have all the info... we filled in the blanks as much as possible, and it came out that she had not given as meds a few days the last week, which was why ss had gone wild, so to speak... so in the meeting... when we were told this... I said "She didn't bother to mention she hadn't given him meds? The school could have handled him so differently if they'd been made aware"... the school agreed, and mentioned they had talked to her about providing that kind of info.

Dummy.

After the meeting, I guess they called her to come in for HER meeting... in the afternoon, dh got a barrage of angry texts and calls... so to a lawyer we went.

Within 2 hours, we had 2 agreements...a short one and a long one. The short one was the same but with an added clause of no contact other than through email... and by phone for medical emergency only. She didn't like that. Again called and shittalking about me to DH... I got fed up and freaked out...I started very loudly saying how that bitch better get her head out of her ass and that she had NO business acting this way...that I had been more of a mother figure to her son that she had ever been and if she didn't knock it the fk off I'd file for 50% benefits, take her to court, and she could get bent. She started screaming something about blackmail... no honey...not blackmail...PROMISE. 

Dh hung up again.

I sent an email to the lawyer, copied her, laid out the last days events, and slammed her with the knowledge that not only was the lawyer fully aware of past events, but had copies of everything she'd ever sent... mentioned parental Alienation, mentioned blackmail (She threatened dh she wouldn't sign unless I stopped communicating with school) and so on.

She replied to me alone...I forwarded to lawyer with "please handle".

Lawyer then sent long version of new agreement, which is 15 pages and ironclad... with a note that shed been instructed to advise her we'd accept the first signed order until 9am today, or we'd proceed to file a modification with the ling version. radio silence from BM... until 8:58am where she texted dh that shed signed the papers.

Dh is mad at me a little for being involved... but only because it put stress on him... he doesn't really care, just a bit crusty.

BM continued to text about how he could do that to her blahblahblah... he only responded that as per the order, she's not to text him, and that communications should ONLY be through email and should ONLY be related to ss.

She tried a few more times to call...then gave up.

I'm so tired of her shit.

Hopefully this will be the end of it for now.... the school has another meeting with her today and hopefully they will put her in her place even further.

Stupid c u next Tuesday..