It’s a long story but it started with DH sharing information on SD. So she has refused to attend the summer program at The Grow School (therapy school) and the school says for BM  to keep bringing her daily and hopefully she will go one of these days but once the official school year starts they would send out an officer to get her. The requirement was that she HAD to attend this summer program to be moved to the 9th grade and if not then she will be in 8th grade again. So he was already frustrated by that then he reads a text from SD, it read something like “Hey Cheater (at one point they had come to the house without coming in and seen my rental car that had NY plates and she thought he had someone else in the house) You know my Thrasher magazines in the locker that your girlfriend pushed into my bed when she called me a cunt, can you bring those to me” (She had baracaded her door the last time she was in our home May 19th when we had to call the cops on her)

Of course, this triggered me 100% and I said, “fuck no she cannot have those, I paid for them I would rather burn them” and DH got really mad saying “You are going to take back a gift?” I was like “You think she deserves shit when she speaks to you in that way, if so this isn’t going to work?”

Needless to say this led to a NOT so great night. I am doing a shitty job at disengaging but that text from his daughter left me feeling like I was punched in the gut. I had apoligized to her right away after my actions the last day she was in our home. We had to call the cops on her and she then went after me, when she and I never had an issue. If you have followed this story she more or less told me that I ruined her life and changed her dad. So I had called her a C*&^% and told her I was done being her person. I was so mad at her for coming at me, as she and I had a solid relationship prior and I didn't handle that well. Nor did I handle the other night well.

I told DH I really think he needs to go to therapy, he talks to NO one about what is happening with him, he is already prone to depressive episodes and he tends to hold onto everything until he cannot and then it is realised onto me. I am so concerned for his mental health and I told him that I just want him to take care of himself, he worried about his physicial health but he isn't doing a good job with his mental health. I couldn't understand why he would cave to his daughters demands when she is so nasty to him, blood or not screw that. I was a stepkid, I had a screwed up relationship with my own father and after years and years of crap I dealt with I decided blood or not, that it was toxic.

I love him but maybe I am not cut out for this, I have never had these types of doubts but I cannot even be positive about his kid anymore and I not reacting seems to be very hard for me as of late. I am hurt from our argument the other night, he tends to forget that he is a team member and will compare me to his ex-wife or just be cruel. We rarely fight (maybe once every 4-6 months we have an argument) and typically get along great and have a lot of fun together and work side by side on large projects. But he has so much in his head about his kids right now and I don't know how to handle it.