So since the weekend (It's only Wednesday) and BM sending a list of demands to DH about how he should and shouldn't parent and that their daughter needs something to work towards- meaning don't bust her bubble that she won't be going to high school next year due to failing grades, missing over 40 days of school etc. They had another meeting at the school.

BM didn't make SD go to school for over 2 weeks, I am still not sure how DCF hasn't gotten involved. Apparently BM thought that they would be getting her into this new theraputic school sooner rather than later but I still don't understand keeping her home for two weeks.

On Monday both BM and SD thought it was a good idea for her to go to school, it was Step-Up day where all the 8th graders go up to the high school to see where they are going next year etc. This is rather comical that both of them thought that this was a good idea. So SD gets into the school and the principal is like "Hold Up, you are not going up to the high school today, here is work you can be getting done" Of course true to her nature SD freaks out, screams, calls her mom and demands to be brought back home. The school sent an email to both DH and Bm stating that if she continues to be defiant that they will need to get DCF involved, at this point DH is like "bring it".

So they have a meeting with the school yesterday where DH lays down the law more or less, he states that they need to stop filling SD head with the fact that she "may" go to high school next year, and how is it legal to move a kid up with 40+ days of missed school and ALL F's for the whole year?" Everytime BM starts in on "she needs a goal to work towards" he is like are you crazy, you keep setting her up for failure, she doesn't care about goals, she only cares that she gets what she wants when she wants it. He told the school that they are all being played by SD and if they progress her before she is actually ready high school will be a shit show and he will not tolorate phone calls and emails everyday about her behavior. He was finally holding the school accountable, because some of them seem like "Just pass her to get rid of her" but the conversation he kept steering back to the theraputic school, she needs it and lets not talk about the high school again.

BM starts the water works in all these meetings, she makes excuses for her daughter (who hates her and uses her) so the only one seeing the truth appears to be DH.

He told the school that busing is needed from both houses for the new school but SD stopped coming to our house a couple weeks back and only cares if the pool is open, a pool she has not rights to and needs to earn. BM's response to this was "She is using that as an excuse to see you" and he responded "USING is the key word there" His daughter doesn't want to be in our home and she doesn't want to spend time with her father. She wants what she can get from everyone and it wont be pool time with friends, big b-day parties ( I spent hundreds on her b-day last year) or any gifts and showering her with things she doesn't deserve. As DH puts it we are staying the course, we are not wavering, SD knows that she is welcome in our home if she can act right and understand she will be held accountable for her actions (which means losing and earning of privileges)

I am so tired of delusional BM and her carbon copy daughter